It depends on the woman.
That said, many women come into it thinking they’ll be okay with intimacy from the first meeting if the man seems like a good person.
Men usually offer different allowances depending on whether or not the arrangement includes an adult relationship (intimate), right?
If that’s the case, women who are more C than D may understandably feel disappointed.
Thank you for your question.
Maezawa here.
I’m not sure what you mean by ending with “a nuisance,” but if that’s what you mean, I feel it’s incorrect. It makes you wonder, “What exactly is supposed to be a nuisance?”
However, if you mean that “it’s bad manners not to invite a Type C woman to an adult relationship (intimate) on the first meeting,” then I think that’s correct.
After all, you view the members’ profiles, take an interest in someone, make an offer, and then arrange a date. Normally, if she’s Type C, it’s standard to make an invitation. Not doing so generally implies that, after meeting her, you felt she wasn’t what you expected and that the date was a failure.
Of course, you don’t have to invite someone you don’t want to. But I think most people understand that not making an invitation will be taken to mean that.
That said, there was a man in the past who didn’t really know how things worked on his first date after joining. He wasn’t sure whether it was okay to make an invitation, so he simply gave her 30,000 yen for transportation and went home after dinner only (no intimacy).
The 30,000 yen may have meant that he liked her, but I never heard whether they went on a second date.
There are gentlemen like that, but from the woman’s perspective, she may have been disappointed, thinking the date hadn’t gone well.
So I do hope the idea that “it’s bad manners not to invite a Type C woman to an adult relationship (intimate) on the first meeting” becomes more widely understood.
If the woman isn’t interested, she’ll turn you down, so please accept it graciously and back off.
Apparently, some men keep pestering her, asking, “Why? What’s wrong with it?” But this is free-form dating, so sometimes you’ll be rejected.
> If the man wants there to be no adult relationship (intimate) on the first meeting, should he mention that when they’re matched?
I think it’s better to mention it when making the offer, not when they’re matched. That way, if the woman doesn’t want to see someone like that, she can decline the offer.
Come to think of it, what does “when they’re matched” even mean?
A dating app?
Just imagine:
Women do papa-katsu because they want an allowance, so even without an adult relationship (intimacy), I think they’d be happy if they received the allowance normally given for one.
Whether there’s an allowance for an adult relationship (intimate) on the first day
Even if you don’t invite her, I think it’s fine to give her an allowance equivalent to an adult relationship.
If you chose a Type C woman, it would be odd to tell her that when making the offer.
I think it’s also important to respect what the woman wants.
I’m “Shirousa,” one of the newer answerers.
Women in Type C are told to set aside two hours for dinner plus two hours for an adult relationship (intimate) on their first date. In other words, that’s what they’re expecting when they go into the first meeting.
So if she isn’t invited afterward, she’ll probably wonder what went wrong. Please also consider the woman who has wasted her time and has to go home without an allowance.
If that’s the case, tell her when making the arrangement that “the first meeting will be dinner only.”
With PATOLO, men can indicate their preferred type as well, so you can fill out a Type B profile.
