What defines a papa you’ve been seeing for a long time and have built a trusting relationship with?
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How many times a month, and roughly how much in total monthly allowance, would qualify someone as a papa?
I assume that in most cases, the allowance is only paid for each adult relationship (intimate), with no other support. Can someone like that still be called a papa?
I feel that papas who support you with whatever amount you need each month, regardless of how many adult meetings you have, are either extremely rare—or it’s just a way for the papa or the woman to show off. Like, “I do this much for other women” or “My papa does this much for me! You may or may not get the same treatment.”
Also, even if you build a trusting relationship with a papa, I feel that most of them won’t increase their support unless the woman asks.
I used to admire the glamorous side of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but should I stop expecting gifts or more allowance?
I faithfully followed the rule that women shouldn’t ask for things, but I never received anything at all.
I’ve realized that what matters is whether you can make them obsessed with you.
For me, it was basically a friends-with-benefits relationship with allowance. I couldn’t make any papas completely hooked on me.
However, papas who aren’t wealthy or particularly popular with women have become completely hooked on me.
I tend to judge things by how much they’re willing to spend on me compared with their estimated income. By that measure, single office workers who aren’t popular with women became far more invested in me.
Their support was greater relative to their income, although their upper limit was lower...
Very wealthy papas seem to spread their money around, don’t need to spend money to attract women, and are harder to make emotionally invested.
I’ve never had a wealthy papa become completely hooked on me and provide substantial support, so I feel like I’m a loser when it comes to papa-katsu.
There are women who supposedly receive a large allowance every month, but is that really true?
I mean women who receive whatever amount they need, or have their number of meetings increased significantly regardless of the number of adult meetings, along with gifts and proactive support.
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Trying to define what a papa is in the first place seems pointless.
Are there really friends-with-benefits arrangements that come with an allowance?
Isn’t a friend with benefits someone you sleep with for free?
If you don’t even understand what a friend with benefits is, I find it difficult to see how you could define what a papa is for the person asking the question.
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Are you the one who keeps asking the same kind of questions?
I’m not attracted to women who care only about their allowance—especially when it comes to men who don’t seem to have any limit on what they’re willing to provide.
A papa (a male supporter) is someone who fulfills a woman’s wishes.
Regardless of how often they have an adult relationship (intimate), I think a true papa is someone who helps with the amount or frequency she needs when she’s struggling, gives her gifts, and actively supports her.
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There are only a few high-paying papas, but they definitely do exist.
I can’t say why the questioner hasn’t had the good fortune to meet one without actually meeting them, but I’m really sorry to say this: maybe there’s a problem with your looks, figure, or intelligence.
Unless you’re naturally stunning, if your looks aren’t your strength, you need to work on your figure. And if that’s not possible, you have to use your brains—you won’t have a good experience with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) otherwise.
“Not intelligent” can also mean lacking substance because you haven’t faced hardships or worked hard in life.
For example, you may overlook your own flaws while focusing only on what’s wrong with other people, be unable to like anyone, or be incapable of taking anything seriously. That can make a papa think, “What a shallow person.”
Also, wealthy men who have seen it all can immediately spot someone who lacks emotional depth.
There must be some fundamental reason behind it. Hopefully, you’ll recognize it and be able to improve.
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Monthly: 30,000 yen per pay-per-meeting arrangement
Twice a month: 50,000 yen per meeting, on average (and I really mean average).
Even if he only gives you cash, he still counts as a papa (a male supporter).
To get a high-income papa hooked, it probably takes genuine-looking romantic attention (acting) and fake tears. If it were me, I’m pretty sure I’d fall for it.
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I agree with what Early said.
If I had to add anything, I’d say that papas who spend a significant amount are often looking for women who have a more unusual profession, a good education, or who put a lot of effort into their appearance and beauty.
You should be grateful that you’re still receiving offers. There are many women who don’t receive any at all.
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I’ll answer the following three questions.
① How many times a month, and how much in total monthly allowance, would qualify someone as a papa?
② If someone only gives an allowance for each adult relationship and provides no other support—which I assume is the case for most people—can he still be called a papa?
③ I hear there are women who receive a large allowance every month. Is that really true?
Answer ①
If it’s at least once and at least 1 yen, and she considers him her papa, I’d say he qualifies as one.
I think it’s fine to set your own clear criteria.
People say there’s no standard rate for allowances.
Answer ②
Same as my answer to ①.
Answer ③
I’m not sure what the questioner considers “a large amount,” but currently, it’s around ¥700,000–¥1,000,000 a month.
The adult relationship is two or three times a month.
Naturally, it doesn’t happen every time.
Gifts and everyday shopping are separate.
We also travel together, and of course the allowance for that is separate as well.
I don’t mean to sound rude, but she’s at a level where people who are only moderately generous don’t really approach her—or rather, she’s perfectly fine not dealing with them. She also puts a considerable amount of effort into her beauty and manners.
She isn’t from a club, though.
It makes me feel like I need to work harder myself.
So, depending on how you define it, girls at this level do exist here.
That said, she’s no longer with the club because she quit.
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