Sorry for the long question.

“Of course I love you too, but… even if we officially started dating, I couldn’t introduce you to my parents, could I? You’re the one putting me through all this pain, aren’t you?! I don’t know what I’m supposed to do either!!” Then get angry at him for turning it back on you. That should usually do the trick.

Thank you for your question. If you’d like to change the age range you’re open to dating, please contact the club representative you’ve been corresponding with! ^^ Since this is a place where people navigate the give-and-take of romance, confessions are fairly common. If you’re open to taking things further, I recommend discussing and clearly agreeing on the support you’ll receive.

> What should I do from here? Since he’s always kind and considerate, I like him as a person. I think you can simply tell him: “I’d like you to continue supporting me just as you have been.” By the way, it was a little unclear from your post, but when you say, “It seems like he may expect an actual relationship the next time we meet,” do you mean that you’ve only been meeting for dinner so far, and that he may invite you to a hotel next time? If so, I think he’s looking for an adult relationship (intimate). If you chose Dating Type A, you should clearly tell him that you chose Type A precisely because that isn’t what you’re looking for. That said, since what he wants and what you want are different, I feel the relationship will probably come to an end. If you chose Dating Type B, then I think it would be understandable for him to accuse you of misrepresenting your dating type. But if you meant that an adult relationship would be possible with a younger man, then I think it would be best to honestly explain that to him and part ways.

I’m with Kazu on this one! Take your time sorting through your feelings of uncertainty as you continue seeing each other. You’ve only been dating for three months, and if you keep going a little longer, you’ll gradually come to understand where you both stand in the relationship.

You could just say, “I love you.” You say “I love you” because he gives you an allowance. And the more a man keeps giving you an allowance, the more he’ll love you. Wouldn’t that kind of relationship be fine? If you just keep seeing him as usual, he’ll continue giving you an allowance, so I think your feelings will gradually become stronger than they are now. Though that probably won’t happen if the monthly allowance is under ¥200,000…

You seem to be misunderstanding what “having feelings” means. Generally speaking, it refers to feeling that someone is a good person. So if you genuinely like him as a person, then you could say you have feelings for him. For example, I have positive feelings toward all of my partners as dating-club partners. I wouldn’t want to spend time with a woman I didn’t like, and if I didn’t find her appealing, I wouldn’t want to have sex with her even for free. I also think you may be misunderstanding what relationships through a dating club can be like. Of course, there are mutual interests involved, but I don’t think they necessarily end as nothing more than a purely transactional relationship. The kind of relationship you describe as a “real relationship” can certainly exist through a dating club as well. For instance, one woman told me she didn’t need an allowance when she stayed at my place because I was letting her stay over. Another woman would have sex at her place and then encourage me to stay the night. There are also women who say they don’t need an allowance because I’m taking them on a trip. Of course, there are also women with whom I simply repeat the routine of having dinner, having sex at a hotel, and then going our separate ways. As you can see, even using my own experiences as an example, relationships through a dating club can take many different forms. I imagine other men also have their own individual relationships with their respective partners. So there’s no single answer as to what you should do or how you should interact simply because it’s a dating-club relationship. I think it would be best for you to express how you feel and work together with him to find an arrangement that feels right for both of you. That said, as I mentioned at the beginning, people interpret words differently. When you talk things over, I recommend making an effort to communicate carefully so that each of you can accurately convey what you mean.

Does that guy not have a mirror at home? What an idiot. Still, you must be quite a smooth operator to make him take things that seriously. Make good use of his affection and turn it into money. You probably have no choice but to take the stance of, “I can’t marry you, but I really do love you as a person.”