Why not try both?
Some men and women can adapt to both, while others find one or the other completely impossible.
Personally, I just don’t click with hostesses at all. The better they are at entertaining, the less we click.
It’s not just because those places involve alcohol, smoking, a lively atmosphere, and rampant workplace and sexual harassment. I also can’t break into the world of exceptional hospitality they’ve made their profession—keeping men in a good mood in that environment—so even when there’s a woman sitting beside me, she still feels like she’s from a distant world.
On the other hand, women outside the industry or at dating clubs are more natural. They can relax, say whatever they want, and be playful and comforting, almost like a wife or daughter. That puts me at ease and helps me relax too.
I think both men and women differ in whether they want to entertain, be entertained, or are comfortable doing both. There are also many different personality types and factors besides alcohol.
I also think that people who are suited to one particular style—and who master it—can excel much further in that area. Trying to do both halfway or remaining somewhere in between just seems boring to me.
I have a feeling they probably aren’t really comparable.
The reason is that while some people move from nightclubs to dating clubs (or escort services?), the reverse seems to be much less common. In other words, nightclubs are that much more competitive and demanding—though that doesn’t mean dating clubs are easy.
It seems to me that there are two main ways to succeed as a hostess:
1. Being able to hold your liquor, drink plenty with customers, and contribute to the establishment
2. Pillow business
Since you say you’re not good with alcohol, option 2 would be the route to becoming successful. This may be misunderstood, but in a club, “pillow business” doesn’t necessarily mean sleeping with customers. If anything, the key is how to avoid actually doing so. It’s the skill of making customers keep coming back by creating a pseudo-romantic relationship—suggesting that intimacy might happen without actually taking things that far. So it’s probably much more demanding and requires more ability than you imagine.
In other words, I don’t think simply being “fairly good at talking to people” is enough to become a hostess who can get customers to come to the club every day.
This question has been asked many times, but it’s a reasonable one, so I’ll answer it.
First, although it’s confusing, dating clubs and relationship clubs are different.
What the ordinances classify as “dating clubs” are generally called relationship clubs. For example, Universe Club has filed a notification to operate as a dating club, but it is actually a relationship club.
What are commonly called dating clubs are more like dispatch-style adult businesses that send women to customers for sex when they call, with intercourse included.
With that distinction in mind, here are the advantages and disadvantages from the women’s perspective.
・Dating clubs (adult entertainment businesses)
These are dispatch-style adult businesses where intercourse is included. If you work for a reputable establishment, staff will step in and help if you have a dispute with a customer.
Some establishments offer a minimum guarantee simply for waiting at the shop, even if no bookings come in.
Once you’re dispatched, it generally isn’t considered work unless you have sex with the customer, whoever they may be, barring exceptional circumstances.
Even if you aren’t particularly good at conversation, you can earn a reasonable amount as long as you can provide the standard sexual services expected of a dating-club worker.
If you have an average appearance, a pleasant personality, and can provide those services, you can earn efficiently in terms of time.
・Relationship clubs
A relationship club is not a job.
You meet men who request dates through the club, and after that, the two of you discuss what happens next between yourselves.
Whether or not you have sex with the man, and how much allowance you receive, are entirely up to you.
Since the relationship is a private matter between the two people involved, it’s unreasonable to expect the club staff to intervene if trouble occurs.
Nothing starts unless a man requests a date, so basically, all you can do is wait.
The time efficiency of the allowance is also up to you, but generally speaking, it’s poor.
However, unlike a job, you don’t have to report for work during fixed hours, so you can make use of your free time.
・Hostess work
Generally speaking, you need to be able to drink, be good at talking to people, and have above-average looks to work as a hostess.
Even if you lack one of those qualities, you can make up for it if you excel in another area.
Unlike a cabaret hostess, who generally works individually, a hostess is expected to work as part of a team. That makes it important to be liked by the senior women and get along with them.
There are ways to establish yourself as the person customers take back to a hotel, or to win customers through pillow work, but your coworkers will look down on you, so you need nerves of steel.
Also, since hostess work is a team effort, unauthorized pillow work will almost certainly cause conflict with your coworkers. When that happens, the person who wins out is usually the one who contributes more to the club.
Since you’re reporting to work at the club, you’re guaranteed to earn an hourly wage. However, you have to pay for expenses such as outfits and hair styling, and there are commissions and penalties, so you need skill to do well as a hostess.
Everyone has different circumstances, strengths, and weaknesses, so there’s no single option that’s best for everyone.
If you want to get money quickly, I think working at an adult entertainment business is the best option.
However, if you genuinely need the money, rather than choosing one or the other, I think you should try working a trial shift at each and find the place that suits you best.
