There are stories in the date reviews about older men making jokes like, “I took the condom off during sex.” Why do older men make such lame jokes? They’re not funny at all, and I can’t understand how they could think women would enjoy them.
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I’ve met a papa (a male supporter) like that myself, and it made me extremely uncomfortable. You’d think someone with money would, by nature, be capable at their job, but I couldn’t see any sign of that whatsoever.
Why do they make jokes like this, and how can you get them to stop? I’d appreciate hearing your thoughts.
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> Why would he make that kind of joke?
I agree with Akari. I feel like he’s watching your reaction to see whether he can suggest going without protection.
> How can I get him to stop?
I think the best thing is simply not to see someone like that again.
If it’s someone you’re meeting for the first time, you could lay down the law around the time you enter the hotel by saying something like:
“I’ve heard there are men who say things like that. They’re the enemy of women, aren’t they? There’s even a chance they’ll take it off and put it back on…”
Something along those lines.
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When a woman shows discomfort, they brush it off with, “I’m just joking!” But if she seems even slightly receptive, they try fishing with something awful like, “Would it be okay without protection?”
Surely there are people out there playing these shallow, not-even-really-a-game-of-negotiation games, right?
Akari
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I think you should simply tell him that you’re extremely uncomfortable.
With someone like that, I recommend ending the date on the spot and reporting it to the club immediately afterward.
Also, just because someone has money or is successful at work doesn’t mean they’re a decent person.
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This is Kobayashi from the Shinjuku branch.
We sincerely apologize for making you feel uncomfortable. The branch handling your account has most likely warned the gentleman in question, so please rest assured.
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I’ve probably never punched anyone in my life. I may not have even gotten into a physical fight.
Likewise, I think people who would never say something like that in such a situation will never say it.
I don’t see why you need to continue seeing that person.
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A joke is something you say or do just to fool around. But fooling around doesn’t always mean trying to make the other person laugh or feel happy.
People who act that way may be doing it because they want to see the other person’s flustered reaction. They don’t seem to be thinking about the other person’s feelings at all.
If you want them to stop, I think you should tell them that it makes you uncomfortable. If someone does something you dislike, it’s perfectly natural to say so. I honestly can’t understand why you wouldn’t.
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