My girlfriend was doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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She used to work in the service industry, then secretly started working in the adult-entertainment business. I got her to quit by telling her I’d cover her living expenses. I thought I was making her life easier, but why would she still do papa-katsu? When I wondered how she was spending her free time, it turned out she was sleeping with men nonstop. She was nothing but a sex-obsessed slut. Should I not have paid her living expenses?
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How much of her living expenses were you covering?
If it was only about what an office worker her age earns, you can’t restrict a woman’s freedom.
If she was working in the adult entertainment industry and was popular, she could probably make ¥500,000–¥1,000,000 a month.
If you were giving her that much, I can understand your dissatisfaction to some extent.
If the woman has an insatiable sex drive, she may simply not be satisfied with sex with you.
That said, you registered with Universe Club and also visited adult establishments, so you’re hardly in a position to criticize someone else.
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You’ve learned two things from this.
First, when you think you’ve “done something for” someone, it usually ends up missing the mark. Doing something because you think, “I did this for them” or “I did this for them out of my own generosity” is simply your ego—it doesn’t necessarily mean the other person feels they’ve received something from you.
Second, money alone can’t bind someone to you. If money could keep people tied down, couples in allowance-based relationships would never break up.
I don’t know whether covering her living expenses was the right thing to do. But I think all that happened here was that you gave her living expenses in an attempt to make her act the way you wanted—and it failed.
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Joe also knows a woman like that.
She’s no longer registered, but while she was, she received offers from 150 men in less than a year. During that time, she also had a boyfriend and worked in the sex industry on the side. She apparently visited a psychiatrist and took medication as well, but from what Joe could see, the effects seemed limited. She has since left the service, found her own path, and seems to be doing her best.
What I’m trying to say is that things might not have been any different whether you paid her living expenses or not. At the very least, I don’t think you need to feel guilty.
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Maybe she doesn’t have enough to cover her living expenses. Are you giving her around ¥500,000 a month?
Women like that probably have pretty high expectations when it comes to money.
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Um, in this case, she isn’t your girlfriend to begin with…
If she truly becomes your girlfriend, she’ll quit working in the sex industry on her own, even without you giving her living expenses. There’s no need to give her money.
Giving her money simply means she has succeeded in her work. It’s no different from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
That’s all it is.
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