What does a girl who isn’t exceptionally cute need to succeed in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? Objectively speaking, I’m probably the cutest girl in my class, but I’m not at the level of being the prettiest girl in the whole school.

I think it comes down to personal style. You can’t make a blanket statement about what kind of woman is cute—just look at anime like *The Quintessential Quintuplets*. I think it’s best to stay true to yourself and be yourself within your own character (*σ´Д｀*).

I’m also mindful of what the other female respondents have said. (It’s difficult precisely because it seems so obvious, though...) Since giving the same answer would be boring, I’d like to share the following three things I consider important, with gratitude—which is a fundamental part of life—always in mind. I’m the kind of person whose looks would be counted from the bottom of the class pretty quickly, but as far as I can remember, I’ve never been turned down by a papa. Based on my experiences of getting an allowance increase and naturally receiving an allowance even in arrangements that weren’t originally allowance-based, I’ll write the following at length. (Maybe this is the kind of life you end up living when you’re not cute-faced, haha. But that’s reality.) 1) Learn to like yourself as someone doing papa-katsu Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t considered mainstream, so I think it’s important, as a way of continuing to live as an ordinary person, to feel guilt and inferiority about doing it. But at the same time, you should learn to like yourself as someone who is loved by your papas—including the part of yourself that feels that guilt. (That means both your appearance and your personality.) 2) Differentiate yourself from other papa-katsu girls There are countless girls prettier than me, and the more papas reach out to girls who fit their preferences, the more likely you are to be dropped. That’s why it’s important to differentiate yourself from other papa-katsu girls. Find out what kind of girls he usually dates, then spend time with him in a way that’s in a category no one else can compete with. (More than half of the people I’ve met through clubs have told me, “I’ve never had a conversation like this before” or “You’re the first papa-katsu girl I’ve been able to talk with like this.” I do aim for that from the first meeting, though.) Of course, it depends on what kind of people the papa usually approaches. The men who choose me are generally those who like my comments, so I can’t compete on looks. That’s why I make a daily effort to fully use my knowledge, experience, and brain. It also helps me at work, so it has nothing but benefits for my future life. 3) If you want to change the other person’s behavior, start with yourself It’s easy to tell someone what you want, make requests, or negotiate, but that tends to create dissatisfaction more often than not. While I do communicate my wishes, I try to show them through my own actions first. For example, if someone is bothered by my slow replies on LINE, I ask why it bothers them. I tell them, “I’ll reply when I want to, so please don’t control me,” but in practice, if I’m unlikely to be able to respond, I let them know the reason beforehand and tell them I’ll reply later. When you want the other person to fulfill your wishes, if you don’t first meet them partway—within the range they can compromise on—one of you is likely to build up resentment. So, as a first step, I deliberately adjust my actions toward their request. Once you understand why they’re making that request, you can deepen your mutual understanding and it becomes easier for both of you to compromise. Papa-katsu may begin with appearance, but I think staying with the same person long-term creates more mutual benefits in many ways. That’s why I believe you need to keep updating your inner self together with your papa, not just your appearance. After all, Homo sapiens are animals too. If we don’t evolve, we’ll be failures as animals. Evolution is full of excitement. That’s just my personal theory.

My daughter’s elementary school had only two classes per grade. So if you were ranked first in your class, you’d probably be around fifth in the entire grade at best. As for my daughter, she wasn’t just first in her class—she was overwhelmingly first in the whole grade. I’m talking about her grades, of course.

Let me introduce the woman I’m currently seeing: She’s serious and doesn’t lie. She keeps her promises. She has a strong sense of self. And she listens to what other people have to say. I guess? By the way, she’s fairly attractive, a little overconfident, and self-centered. As for me, I’ve become pretty handsome lately and I’m overconfident too, haha. We have an age gap of over 40 years, it’s an exclusive one-on-one relationship, and we’ve been together for five years.

What would actually count as a win for you in the first place? Personally, I think it’s more important to find someone you feel emotionally comfortable with and can maintain a long-term arrangement with than to focus on how generous the allowance is.

Above all, I’m grateful. And I respect them as well—they’ve succeeded in their careers, which I think is amazing. They support the families of many employees, so please recognize what a remarkable and noble thing that is. Some men make one mistake after another by choosing women based solely on looks. But women who understand a man’s hobbies and preferences and make him feel relaxed and at ease are likely to become popular, regardless of their appearance.

Some people are attracted to qualities they don’t have themselves. But I also think there are people who are attracted to someone just as they are. For example, a man who is serious, gentle, calm, kind, seems like he’d go along with anything, and comes across as smart and intellectual—someone who doesn’t seem likely to let loose—might not be attracted to a woman with the same qualities. He may instead be drawn to a woman with the exact opposite traits. No one is universally appealing to everyone. So there are also men who are attracted to women who are irresponsible, intense, strong-willed, make unreasonable demands, are a little scatterbrained and not all that bright, and really know how to let loose.

The three things I always try to keep in mind are: - Being grateful to the other person - Respecting the other person - Not pushing myself too hard I try to follow these principles in everyday life, not just in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I was actually talking with a papa (a male supporter) the other day, and according to the papas, the women they want to keep seeing are: - Cheerful women who are fun to talk to - Women who give them a reason to want to support them Everyone has their own definition of success in papa-katsu, but I hope you have a wonderful papa-katsu experience!

First of all, being the cutest girl in your class is pretty amazing! What counts as success depends on each person’s values, but for me, the most important thing is never forgetting to show respect and gratitude toward the other person. I don’t take anything they do for granted. I always make sure to thank them, point out the qualities I like about them, and express how happy they make me feel in the relationship as much as possible. When you meet all kinds of people, you naturally find that some are a good fit and others aren’t. I no longer force myself to stay involved with someone whose values don’t align with what’s important to me. And if I want to maintain a long-term relationship with someone, I adapt the way I interact with them so I can become the kind of person they’re looking for.