I have a cat, and prospective papas and other men often say things to me like, “Don’t you let your cat lick your clitoris?”
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Honestly, it’s a topic I find so physically repulsive that it makes me feel sick. Since I love my cat like my own child, it disgusts me even more. Also, when they find out I have an older and a younger brother, many men start asking things like, “Which one is better?” or “Which one is bigger?”—as though it’s a given that I have sex with my brothers.
It’s not just papas, either. Men I’ve exchanged contact information with through work, and friends of friends, bring up these kinds of topics too. Lately, I’ve started to distrust men in general.
Is it reasonable to assume that men normally do things like that? Do they let their dogs or hamsters lick their genitals, or have sex with both sisters if they have them? Is it common to tell people of the opposite sex—people they aren’t even close to—about such things?
Of course, I’m not trying to insult people who have those preferences. I just wonder whether men really consider it normal to casually bring up topics like that with a woman they aren’t dating, who isn’t their papa’s partner, and whom they haven’t even met for a first meeting. If that’s considered normal, I find it creepy. It scares me. Sex is supposed to be something private between people who are important to each other, isn’t it? Even if someone were to have that kind of relationship with a sibling of the opposite sex or a beloved pet, I feel it’s the sort of thing they should take to the grave. Am I the one thinking about this strangely?
Maybe I just have terrible luck with men, or perhaps I’m surrounded by men like that. What are the papas and ordinary men around you like?
If bringing up topics like this with someone of the opposite sex whom they’ve never even met is considered normal, I personally can’t handle it. But what would be the right way to respond? Whether it’s a papa or an ordinary man, I no longer know how I’m supposed to answer.
When it’s someone I’m dealing with for work, I take screenshots, block them, report to my supervisor that I blocked them and explain what happened, and consult a lawyer. I do this so I can act immediately if the situation causes any actual harm. But my supervisor and coworkers tell me I’m being dramatic and going too far, saying, “It happens all the time.” I’d really like to hear both men’s and women’s opinions.
Maybe that guy is just porn-minded, or perhaps you come across as extremely sexually provocative if so many men say things like that to you...
It has to be one or the other, I guess...
But I wouldn’t have a creepy conversation like that. Papa-katsu girls would hate me for it.
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I’ve lived a long time and even dated an extremely perverted man, but I’ve never once heard anything so ridiculous.
I’m sorry to ask, but when you sit down, do you tend to sit with your legs spread in a sloppy manner? Someone who looks careless in that way might be told something like that, but I think it would only happen to someone with exceptionally poor manners.
Even a supervisor at work normally wouldn’t say something like that, would they?
The people around you seem unbelievably stupid. I wonder why. It’s strange.
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What kind of conversations do you usually have?
First of all, I don’t think conversations normally turn to sexual topics that easily. Women might get onto that subject after having a few drinks together, but between a man and a woman, it usually doesn’t come up unless they’re fairly close. And in some cases, they may not talk about it at all outside the hotel.
With that in mind, I think it would be better to first consider why the conversation is turning in that direction.
If you can figure that out, you might be able to resolve the issue.
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I’m not stupid enough to say something like that to a woman.
However, if she were a business partner and you screenshot the messages, blocked her, and so on, it could potentially cause damage to her company.
Even if you insisted that the other person was at fault, and your claim was accepted, you’d probably lose your place at the company.
To be honest, you come across as lacking a bit of charm. I think you should learn how to gracefully brush things off.
I’m not defending men. Even if a woman from a business partner’s company made a sexually harassing remark to me, I’d probably just brush it off.
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You really have terrible luck with men.
The whole “little sister” or “pet” thing is creepy just to think about.
If he’s a generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter), gently tell him, “That makes me a little uncomfortable,” and steer things back on track.
If he’s a low-paying papa, it’s fine to write, “That’s creepy,” underline it in a screenshot, send it back to him, and block him.
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Dear questioner,
This is Sho Mitsui from Universe Club.
First of all, let me say that ordinary men don’t ask questions that show such a lack of restraint. At least, neither I nor any of the male staff around me have ever heard of men asking women questions like that.
If a man does ask you something like that, he either has very little to talk about or is the type who believes the content of adult videos reflects reality.
If you come across a man who asks questions like that in the future, just think to yourself, “This guy probably isn’t very popular.” It may help you feel a little more at ease.
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No, that thought wouldn’t even cross my mind.
And even if it did, I wouldn’t say it out loud.
What kind of bleak world full of idiots do you live in?
That said, the fact that you lumped all men together in your question makes you seem pretty foolish too. Take care.
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