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Dec 12, 2022 21:22
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Before the first meeting, I went to the hair salon, a cosmetic dermatology clinic, a slimming salon, got my nails done, had a lash lift, bought a new outfit, and had my hair styled and my makeup professionally done. Then I met him and received 50,000 yen, but I ended up stress-bingeing and purging repeatedly that day, followed by a trip to the massage parlor…
I’m not just breaking even—I’m actually in the red.
How do you all handle the expenses that come with dating?
9 answers
ぽたしうむ
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Female member Potassium here.
Since I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), neither my spending nor my weight has increased. I simply bought now what I would have bought with my own salary a few years from now.
If the only spending is for first meetings, I think you can make it worthwhile by continuing.
If your reason for doing papa-katsu is money, the reason you ended up needing papa-katsu may also be related to that tendency to overspend.
I agree that if you’re running a deficit, you should quit.
To me, papa-katsu is simply a form of entertainment—meeting people and having fun.
That’s just my personal opinion.
綾瀬なな
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Wow, you’re going that often?
You won’t lose weight from going to slimming treatments just once or twice—you have to put in consistent effort.
I only use a face mask at night to get ready for dates. As for clothes, I just wear what I already own.
When I’m on the train, I occasionally see girls whose outfits clearly scream that they’re off to a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) date. They really stand out.
茉莉花
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I occasionally buy clothes, but I’d buy them even without going on dates, so it costs me almost nothing.
Marika
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スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
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What’s a slimming salon? You’ll lose weight if you just don’t eat.
あかり
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Isn’t that less about consideration for the other person and more just self-satisfaction?
Akari
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I’ve never been to a cosmetic clinic, either. I only get eyelash extensions once every three months, and I go to the hair salon maybe once every four years… I’ve never been to a spa, and I do my own nails.
A full hair-and-makeup package? What is this, a coming-of-age ceremony? I’ll do it myself… and I don’t binge and purge.
It’s not like I’m meeting them looking filthy or anything. I just mean that if you take care of yourself regularly, you don’t have to spend that much money just for the occasion.
As for clothes, it’s not that I never buy anything new. But I also wear clothes I already own, and since I wear them normally too, they aren’t just for that one meeting.
I think you can get ready without spending that much. Why not try doing it within the amount you receive, at least to start with?
オオサカ
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That’s just wasteful spending, lol.
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Age: 50s
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If a company is operating at a loss with no prospect of increasing sales, it cuts costs and aims to become profitable.
Stop all the costly preparations, and look for a papa (a male supporter) who causes little or no stress.
Age: Private
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I think it’s best to withdraw from a money-losing venture.
In other words, you’re probably better off not doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).