When you’re interviewing for a job, is it better to be upfront about your papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) experience? For example, should I mention that I’ve had a condo bought for me, lived with a papa (a male supporter), or even been given a company?
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Or would it be better not to bring these things up?
Would people generally see that in a negative light?
Knowing that someone has papa-katsu experience can be reassuring, but it can also make people wary, so it’s a factor that could work either for or against you.
If you don’t mention it, it might work to your advantage with Type A, but with other types, you could suddenly stop receiving offers after a few (or once they find out), and the staff may no longer recommend you.
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During the interview, I think you should be honest and speak openly. At the same time, it would be a good idea to ask them not to include those details too explicitly in your profile.
It’s also important to explain what you’re hoping for now, based on those past experiences.
For example, since someone bought you an apartment in the past, are you looking for something at that level again? Or since you’ve lived with someone before, would you consider living together again if the relationship develops?
Taking your past into account, I’d want to know what you’re looking for going forward. Otherwise, it could lead to a fundamental mismatch.
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There’s a saying, “what goes around comes around,” and I think the Buddhist interpretation is something like this—if I remember correctly.
If you do something good for someone, something good comes back to you. The idea is that other people are “you separated by space,” while your past and future selves are “you separated by time.” In other words, you do something good for the “you” that exists at a spatial distance, and that good deed comes back to your future self. Since you’re doing something good for yourself—not someone else—it comes back to you. Someone else, yet still yourself. That’s how I understand it.
Conversely, you could say that the self separated from you by time is also someone else. Taken to the extreme, your past and future selves are strangers.
Since your past self is someone else, you can’t recycle the glory of past achievements. That’s how I see it.
In other words, there’s no point in talking about things that happened to someone else.
If you don’t understand what I mean, you’d better train at Mount Koya before getting into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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It’s not a matter of being at an advantage or disadvantage.
With that much experience, you’re basically signaling that the usual allowance won’t be enough for you, right?
To avoid a mismatch, I think you should be upfront with the club about it.
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How you view those things depends on the person, so I don’t think you can say they’re universally an advantage or disadvantage.
Personally, I find it interesting, so if I came across a woman like that, I’d probably make her an offer. I also like women who are honest and straightforward because they’re not difficult to deal with.
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