Quite a while ago, there was a question about what to do when, even after sitting next to a woman on the sofa before an adult relationship, the distance between them didn’t seem to close.
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/14323
In response, for example, Makeo-san said that simply sitting next to her on the sofa wasn’t the right approach.
When I go on an adult date, especially a first date, I also find myself wondering where I should have the woman sit and where I should sit myself.
If we immediately sit side by side on the sofa and move closer, I feel it might come across as too eager, so at first I sometimes sit a little farther away from her—for example, having her sit on the sofa while I sit on the edge of the bed.
Even if we talk for a bit at first, when we sit too far apart, it becomes difficult to judge the right timing for the next step, such as getting affectionate or suggesting a shower.
So, when you enter a hotel room, where do you usually sit at first? Where does each person sit?
Also, what kind of cue do you usually use to suggest taking a shower or moving to the bed?
Of course, I’m sure some people go straight into action, but I imagine many couples first take a moment to settle in after entering the room. That made me wonder—and is something I’m struggling with—what a natural flow looks like once you’re inside.
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On the first day of the arrangement, I hold back. I let them shower first, and only touch them once we’re in bed.
From the second time onward, I keep my distance until they brush their teeth. After that, I let desire take its course.
I only do anything else after making sure they’re comfortable with it.
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Even now, I sit on the sofa and the bed.
When we first started seeing each other, the age gap was so big that even I was surprised, so we talked about various things after entering the room. At that time, we decided this arrangement was best, and it hasn’t changed ever since（笑）
I’m more of a bath person, but I don’t say anything. In my case, the woman I’m seeing prompts me. It’s the same at restaurants and so on—I just follow her lead.
Only once at a dating club, I had an experience where I took a bath and went to the bed while the woman I was seeing put her underwear back on and got ready to leave（笑）. It’s a nostalgic memory（笑）
I think it’s best not to get too hung up on a particular routine or format.
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Thinking back to the first time with the person I’m still seeing, we sat separately—one on a chair and the other on the bed.
I didn’t want to get close without showering, so after chatting for about three minutes, I went straight to take a shower.
The allowance had already been given at the end of the meal.
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For a first time, you might:
- Sit side by side on the sofa right away.
- Look around the room first, then naturally end up hugging while standing.
- Lie down on the bed as soon as you enter, or get hugged and fall onto the bed together.
If things develop naturally, since it’s basically a form of pretend romance, wouldn’t it make sense to hug while standing as soon as you enter the room? Then, if you move on to an adult relationship without letting go and see it through, you can probably get a good sense of your compatibility too.
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