Every time I meet my papa (a male supporter), he tells me, “Lick me all over,” and makes me lick everywhere, even his anus and the tips of his toes.
When I told him, “I hate this… It feels like something a sex worker would do,” he said, “Being made to do it by a sex worker and having a girl who likes you do it feel completely different. The way a girl who has fallen for you licks you can’t be beaten by a sex worker’s.”
And for some reason I’m being made to do it.
Lately, we’ve been going straight to a hotel every time—we don’t have much time to meet, either—so I asked him, “You think of me as a casual sex partner or a sex worker, don’t you?” Suddenly, he became much kinder. He started asking whether there was anywhere I wanted to go, contacting me more often, holding my hand on the way home, and kissing me goodbye. Once a month, he also takes me away overnight for a nice meal and a stay at a lovely hotel. He often gives me presents as well.
My relationship with my papa is half like a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, and since it’s a monthly arrangement, it’s more worthwhile for me to meet him more often.
I feel that men wouldn’t ask a woman they truly love to lick them all over. I feel that my papa sees me as the kind of woman who does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—a sex worker or a frivolous woman who sleeps with men for money.
Does whether he gives me an allowance determine whether he truly cares about me? Do you think this person values me?
It makes me sad to be treated like a sex worker. I really want him to treat me like a girlfriend he truly cherishes. But maybe that’s impossible (; ;). This is so painful.
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“Making you lick him” doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t value you.
Having you lick his entire body isn’t necessarily about paid sex work—it may simply be that papa’s particular preference.
I personally don’t want anyone licking my anus, and I refused that even when I went to a soapland in the past. Some sex workers also refuse to lick.
If you don’t like it, refuse or end the relationship. If you don’t want to break up, then I think you should just do it for him.
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> I don’t think a man would ask a woman he truly loves to lick him all over.
I agree.
In fact, some men may not even want her to do things like that or perform oral sex, so it’s perfectly fine if she doesn’t. And since a relationship through a club isn’t a romantic one, they may be even less inclined to ask for various things.
If she’s someone they’re willing to meet and give an allowance to, they’ll probably want to treat her with even greater care.
That said, things may be different in a club setting when an adult relationship—or intimacy every time—is the main purpose.
I also think it depends greatly on whether the man is focused on increasing the woman’s satisfaction or simply on satisfying himself.
Trying to bring the woman to the best possible finish versus trying to fulfill the man’s own pleasure and desires—including the process and what she does for him—are two different things.
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Whether she’s a sex worker or genuinely into him, that’s simply the older man’s preference—a gentleman who likes having his entire body licked.
That’s all there is to it.
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Do you understand what people mean by unusual kinks?
A long time ago, a woman I was close to when she worked in the adult entertainment industry told me she could no longer see me because she had started dating a man she liked.
Apparently, her boyfriend’s kink was giving her golden showers all over her body in the bath, and she clearly found it extremely unpleasant.
But because he was a man she had loved since her school days, she said she would try to put up with it as much as possible.
In other words, some people will show their unusual kinks even to someone they’re dating.
As for your situation, I don’t think the man you’re seeing is treating you like a sex worker.
Have you ever heard that men who usually hold important positions sometimes enjoy baby-play?
The reason they can’t show that side of themselves to their girlfriends or wives is simply that they’re afraid of being rejected.
Especially in traditional Japanese marriages, where arranged marriages were fairly common, some men may feel they can’t truly open up.
But with a mistress, they ask because they believe she’ll accept every side of them.
Of course, if you simply don’t want to do it, your only options are to refuse and end the relationship.
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It’s better to turn him down before you start feeling mentally unwell.
The medical bills will cost more than the allowance.
Instead of just licking him, why not have him lick you too?
If it were me, I’d want us to lick each other.
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I want an allowance, but I also want to be valued by my papa (a male supporter). I get the feeling the person asking the question feels the same way.
I wouldn’t force myself to do anything I truly don’t want to do—I’d say I can’t. But if I liked my papa, I wouldn’t completely reject everything; I think I’d compromise where I could.
If I were in your position, I’d tell my papa how I feel. If he changed, even temporarily, I’d be absolutely thrilled when he showed me that he valued me. And at that point, I think I’d do something that would make him happy too.
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Hmm, that’s a good question.
> I’m being made to do that for some reason I don’t really understand.
My guess is that he doesn’t see you as a sex worker, but genuinely “likes” you as a papa-katsu girl.
This papa is generally satisfied because you do the things he wants. So I think he’s looking for a relationship that’s halfway like having a girlfriend. In that sense, it’s different from being friends with benefits or a sex worker.
Whether he values you or not isn’t determined by the allowance. I think you’re somewhere between a friend with benefits and a girlfriend—or a sex worker and a girlfriend—and that he does value you to some extent.
That papa knows what he’s doing, too（笑）
From here on, let’s move the relationship beyond its current position—somewhere between a friend with benefits or a sex worker and a girlfriend—to something between a girlfriend and a wife. In dealing with such a savvy papa, you should become an equally savvy dating partner（笑）
I wonder what Aya will say in response. I’m looking forward to it.
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× You wouldn’t ask a woman you genuinely love to lick your entire body.
○ You may come to like a woman who licks your entire body, even if you give her an allowance.
○ You can’t ask a woman you genuinely love—without giving her an allowance—to lick your entire body.
That’s how I see it.
If you don’t want to be seen as a sex worker or a woman who sleeps with men for money, an allowance gets in the way. If you turn down the allowance, the man’s perception of you may change.
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Perhaps she didn’t think of herself as a sex worker, so being told that made her realize it and try hard to make up for it.
If doing things for him doesn’t make you happy, it’ll be painful, so I don’t think you should force yourself. Though if you turn him down, he may break things off with you.
He wants the person he likes to lick him, after all.
I’m seeing someone who licks me all over. If it’s someone I like, I’m happy to be licked too.
Marika
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