This is my first post here.
I’m currently enjoying dates once or twice a month with each of three women.
The allowance is 100,000 yen each time.
I previously saw a post on this Q&A site from someone who had one Fukuzawa taken from his wallet every time, so I checked the Fukuzawa bills in my wallet over the past few dates—and it turns out that two of the women had each skillfully taken one 10,000-yen bill while I was showering.
I’m a little unsure how to handle the situation going forward.
Neither woman asks for much beyond the allowance, and neither has ever negotiated for a higher allowance. If I tell them I’ve noticed, it would probably make things awkward, wouldn’t it?
I don’t mind the extra 10,000 yen at all, but I’m shocked by the realization that they’re the kind of people who would do something like that.
For now, we get along extremely well, both in conversation and physically, so I’m considering just letting it go.
Or should I start bringing my bag into the shower room every time?
What would you all do?
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Wait.... that’s a crime....
If you know it’s a crime and still do it, I think that’s already a sickness.
If you care about that girl and realize it’s a crime, please tell her.... Or at least help her realize it.
The mindset that “it’s okay as long as you don’t get caught” will only have negative consequences in the future.
A papa isn’t just about money.
Let me talk about a utopia for a moment: I believe being a papa means guiding her so she can move forward on the right path for her.
It’s also pretty sad that she feels she has to bring things into the shower room for her own protection... I suppose there’s no other option.
That’s just my personal opinion. Reality is terrifying.
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For a woman, that means he’s that kind of person.
If you still want to continue, just come up with whatever reasons you need and convince yourself. Isn’t that all there is to it?
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Ugh...
I really don’t understand why anyone would steal money, but I guess it could be because:
- They’re struggling financially
- They’re unhappy with the allowance
- They simply have sticky fingers
Those are the only reasons I can think of.
But I believe trust is essential, so all I can think of is ending things with them(´・ω・｀)
That sounds really tough (›´-`‹ ) I hope you find someone good.
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I once had a girl where we didn’t set an allowance in advance and just agreed on whatever cash I had in my wallet. That way, even if some was taken out along the way, it wouldn’t make a difference. I think it removes the incentive to take anything midway through.
In my case, I mainly use cashless payments, so the assumption was that I wouldn’t have much cash on me anyway. Still, it’s not like the amount in my wallet would be below the going rate.
For the record, I didn’t do this because money had been taken from me. She said she didn’t want a monthly arrangement or to set a specific amount and continue seeing each other on those terms, so that’s what we did.
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I think taking a shower together would be fine.
Running a bath and getting in together could be nice too.
Some women may prefer to bathe separately, but if they see you filling the tub, many will assume you’re expecting them to join you, so they probably won’t refuse.
The downside of a regular city hotel may be that the bathtub is too small for two people. Even so, you could probably squeeze in together.
At a love hotel, unless you choose somewhere unusually cheap, the tub should be large enough for two.
Or maybe slip a few toy banknotes into your wallet?
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Some people really do things like that, huh? Especially if it’s someone you’re seeing—that must be a shock.
Personally, I’d end the relationship. But if you decide to continue, I’d recommend taking your belongings with you into the shower room. It’s sad, but perhaps you should make it harder for them to take money easily and see how things go.
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That really says a lot about what kind of person they are. I’d end things, no question. The reason doesn’t matter.
If they genuinely need money, they should get a job or simply explain that they absolutely need it this month.
Two out of three is a pretty high rate. Why not take your valuables with you when you go to shower? The woman may have her own thoughts about it too. Then you can decide whether to continue seeing them based on how they respond afterward.
I don’t think letting it slide is good for them either. It’s nothing but a crime. If you let them think they can get away with it, that isn’t good.
Personally, I can’t even consider being with someone who steals money.
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I put my valuables in my pockets before going into the shower room.
It’s not so much about suspecting the woman you’re with; I think it’s also important to take simple precautions so that sort of thing doesn’t happen in the first place.
If you don’t like that idea, then you shouldn’t mind no matter how much gets taken.
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At your age, whether it happens at work or among family and acquaintances, the first step is to consider the responsibility of the person who created the situation that allowed something bad to happen.
Also, in this case, even an allowance of 10 may still not be enough for her.
I think you should arrange dates a little more often and make more of an effort to reduce her stress and dissatisfaction.
You were enjoying the dates and having a good time, but she may have been thinking the complete opposite the whole time.
And of course, you shouldn’t keep cash in your bag.
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Please don’t let her commit any more crimes.
She probably thinks, “They’re so easy to fool. lol”
I’m sure she’s taking money from her other papas too.
From next time you meet, take your clothes with you when you go near the bath.
If you think she’s cute, that’s all the more reason you need to make her stop.
And please report it to the staff as well.
If a low-paying papa gets $100 taken from him, you never know what he might do in a fit of anger.
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Hmm, if it were me, I’d stop seeing her and end things.
It may only be 10,000 yen for now, but if she realizes she can get away with it, she might get bolder and start taking 20,000 yen—or even asking for items.
If she’s really a good girl and you don’t want to let her go, you could bring your valuables into the shower room every time, then increase the allowance to 15,000 yen just once.
If she asks, “Why did you increase it?” just say, “I noticed you were having a hard time, so this is a one-time bonus,” and, “Thank you for always showing me a good time.”
She might take the hint and stop.
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I’m really sorry, but she’s taking advantage of you…
Personally, I wouldn’t want anything more to do with someone who steals from others. But if you don’t want to cut ties with her, I think your only option is to bring your bag into the shower room every time.
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