I’ve gradually grown closer to a papa who used to contact me only once a month to arrange our schedules. Recently, we meet once a week, and we message and talk on the phone every day. We met six months ago. I feel like he likes me, but it seems he also has many other girls, so I’d appreciate some advice. I’m not asking him to stop seeing multiple women, but there are health risks, and to use the term from the question box, I’d like him to “get hooked” on me as much as possible.

I never get too emotionally invested, but I do feel that relationships with someone trustworthy tend to last longer. Rather than coming on too strong, I think men also find a relationship with a sense of security and stability easier to maintain. That way, they seem to get just emotionally invested enough, if you know what I mean（笑） The important thing is just to make sure they don’t get so deeply hooked that they end up drowning.

Almost all of the papas I’m seeing started out dating multiple women or making offers to other women, but eventually chose to focus on me alone. What I make a point of doing is: ・Replying to messages right away ・Matching my papa’s energy—or responding with slightly more enthusiasm (For example, if he’s a romantic type, I respond with an even more lovey-dovey, romantic attitude.) ・Making sure to fully enjoy the adult relationship (intimate) ・Adjusting my schedule to his whenever possible ・Relying on him, such as asking for advice about things unrelated to money ・Not forgetting to say things he’ll enjoy hearing, like, “I get butterflies when I’m with you,” or, conversely, “I feel safe and comfortable with you.” ・Making it clear that I don’t have a boyfriend and am not particularly proactive about dating I think if you do these things, they’ll naturally fall hard for you. Good luck!

It sounds like you’ve already decided on a monthly arrangement. That’s how I am, too. I don’t like it to feel completely businesslike, but I also don’t want us to get too close. It’s a difficult balance, isn’t it? If you’re talking on the phone every day, then this may be the most comfortable relationship for the man you’re seeing right now. So I think it’s best to wait until he’s the one who suggests seeing you more often. That said, even if he chooses to focus exclusively on you, there’s no way to know whether you’ll stop seeing other men. There are plenty of lies in this world. In other words, if someone is worried about the risk of illness, they’ll still feel uneasy even if the other person says they’re focusing only on them. If I were told, “I want you to see only me,” I’d find it too much and would probably start thinking about saying goodbye.

> If a man becomes “hooked” on one particular woman, what do you think is the reason? I think it’s because he feels that if they broke up, he’d lose something he could never get back. Maybe he thinks things like: “No other woman responds to me this well.” “No other woman is this much fun to be around.” “No other woman has techniques this amazing.” I think it comes down to her having something that other women don’t.

> If a man becomes “hooked” on one woman, he won’t feel like seeing anyone else. It means he wants to see her that badly and genuinely enjoys being with her. In other words, she’s seen as one of the best women he’s ever met. To stand out that much, there has to be something clearly exceptional about her—something that leaves the others far behind. Since this is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), physical compatibility becomes especially important. Yesterday, a woman said she can climax from masturbation in under a minute, whether externally or internally. So both men and women can reach climax in under a minute—three minutes at most, which is still enough time for Ultraman. It’s a little surprising to men that some women climax even faster through clothing. That means when the chemistry is good, you can tell within just a few minutes. In papa-katsu, good physical compatibility is very important. It can even be the foundation for having good overall chemistry. If the physical chemistry is right, there’s a chance that simply being together will make everything feel better. Of course, the man has to be perceptive enough to recognize that. If he doesn’t understand it, he won’t appreciate how significant it is. The fact that it started out as once a month suggests the compatibility probably wasn’t that strong. In that case, the only option may be to gradually monopolize more of his time… To get a man hooked on one woman, you may have no choice but to see him two or three times a week—or even four, five, or six times. Even so, men apparently don’t get tired from going on dates with three or four women in a day—in fact, it may even energize them—so I don’t think you need to overthink it.

It’s pretty simple. 1. Give him plenty of Magikarp kisses. 2. Pretend to climax from penetration. ① × ② = how deeply he falls for you. Easy enough, right? If you don’t like Magikarp kisses, though, it might be difficult to make him fall hard. Also, being really good at touching his balls and nipples—using a feather-light touch—could earn you major bonus points. I recently met a premium “Black” girl who’s probably the most skilled in bed I’ve ever encountered, and I’m hoping she might be the first woman in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to really make me fall. The women who get the most money out of me, especially my ace, are hardworking in bed. My ace even dresses up in cosplay regularly without me asking, and the women I’ve dated have always gone all out for me, completely ignoring the cost-performance ratio. To the person asking this: give it everything you’ve got. I’m not saying you have to eat poop—just start with kissing. Even outside of intimacy, surprising him with a kiss can sometimes make him fall for you without any Magikarp kisses. Pretending to climax is easy, right? Watch some porn and study how to fake it.

I feel like “getting hooked” in the context of the question means something different from how I interpret it. To me, getting hooked means becoming so attached to a woman that you start spending a lot of money on her. That aside, I think it starts with simply liking the other person. For a man dating multiple women, I believe it’s important that one particular woman can provide something he can’t—or is unlikely to—get from the others. That “something” is probably highly appealing to him, but what people find attractive varies from person to person. In other words, I think the key is figuring out what that “something” is, providing it, and gaining a competitive advantage over the other women.