What do you say when you want to end a relationship?
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I’m a male member.
I’ve had adult relationships with around 30 women through the club.
Maybe I get bored easily, because after meeting someone three or four times, I somehow start to lose interest.
I don’t have the energy to date 10 or 20 people at the same time, so inevitably, more and more of these relationships come to an end.
When you want to end this kind of relationship, how do you usually contact the other person?
I feel bad ignoring their LINE messages, but I’m also unsure what to say.
For now, I’ve been telling them I’ve gotten busy, but that leads to quite a few follow-up messages, which is honestly exhausting.
For the men here, how do you usually end things?
And for the women, how would you prefer to be told?
👤Asked byGuest👨GenderMale🎂40s👑Universe male member
Whether we meet through a club or outside one, I make my decision after the first meeting, so anyone I’ve met twice has continued seeing me after that.
For that reason, I generally don’t exchange contact information with someone I don’t think I’ll see a second time. If we do exchange contact information, I simply avoid making plans to meet again, citing work or other circumstances. Since we’ve only met once, most women naturally stop contacting me fairly soon.
Also, in my case, I haven’t had to be the one to end things with anyone I’ve seen a second time or more—those who became ongoing arrangements. Most of them treat me with genuine consideration, so I’m not settling in any way. Besides, I don’t think this is the kind of relationship where either person should be settling.
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I’m not a man, but I’ll answer anyway.
Even as a woman, I’ve ended things when someone was far too persistent on LINE. If you’ve simply lost interest, the only thing you can do is gradually reduce your messages and quietly say goodbye.
Just don’t write “I’m looking for a relationship with genuine feelings” in your profile. However, be careful—she may eventually complain.
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If you don’t make plans for next time, won’t things naturally fade out?
Even if she says, “Let’s set a date for next time!” she’ll probably get the hint if you reply, “I’ll get in touch,” and then don’t contact her.
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Since I give them their allowance, it’s not like I’m just hooking up and disappearing—I simply empty my mind and cut off contact.
That said, I always pay at least one meeting’s allowance upfront, so I treat that as the closest thing to severance pay.
I’m a fairly decent customer for Universe, but for the women I meet, I’m a terrible papa who’s difficult to keep seeing.
I probably have two monthly arrangements that I’ll never end unless they break up with me. With the other women, I usually meet them one to three times before parting ways.
I wonder if things enter a stable phase once they’ve lasted over a year.
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