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Jun 5, 2022 15:36
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A man I recently had a first meeting with contacted me and said that next time, after dinner, he’d like me to come to his apartment in a building called ○○.
When I asked, “Is that where you normally live?” he replied, “Yes. Celebrity ○○ lives there too. If you’re worried, we can use a hotel the first time.”
I’m uncomfortable going to someone’s home, so I’d prefer to keep meeting at hotels. If I tell him that, do you think he’ll drop me?
The main reasons I don’t want to go to his home are:
・I’m worried about hidden cameras.
・I feel uncomfortable, from a hygiene standpoint, using the bed where he normally sleeps.
Also, the restaurant he specified was near that apartment building, and when I looked it up, the rent seemed to be in the 200,000-yen range. So I’m wondering if it might be a second home.
Maybe he just wants to save on hotel costs...
He says he wants to see me three times a month, but honestly, his allowance is lower than what my other supporters pay—what I get from him for two meetings is what I get from someone else for one. If he’s trying to save on hotel costs, my honest feeling is that I’d like him to increase the allowance.
However, he seems to like me quite a bit, and since this relationship will probably end eventually anyway, I’m also thinking I might as well save as much of the allowance as I can while it lasts. I plan to put everything he gives me straight into savings, and if I treat him as though he never existed from the start, maybe it won’t hurt that much when things end.
If a man insists on meeting at his home from the very beginning, would it be difficult to continue seeing him if I refuse and tell him I’d prefer hotels every time?
Do you have any good ways to turn him down?
6 answers
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Since you seem to be getting plenty of offers, you don’t have to pursue an arrangement if you’re not comfortable with it.
You already have a generous (well-paying) papa offering ¥800,000, and you turned down the papa with nose hair—so why are you so reluctant to lose this papa? If you’re worried, just turn him down.
If this isn’t made up and he really is wealthy, turn him down and let the club match him with another female member who doesn’t mind being a second house.
Other
Yokoyama from the staff here—I’ll answer as well!
The main reasons she doesn’t like going to someone’s home are:
- She’s worried about hidden cameras.
- She feels uncomfortable, from a hygiene standpoint, using the bed where a man normally sleeps.
Why not be honest with your male supporter and tell him the above?
Of course, there’s always a chance he may end things, but I think that’s better than forcing yourself to go.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I think it would be fine to just ignore questions from this IP address...
They’re probably made-up stories to begin with, right? Some people create fictional scenarios and ask questions just to enjoy seeing how others respond. Since it’s all fabricated, nothing actually happened, and they likely aren’t really in trouble either.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I suspected schizophrenia from the very beginning, so in a way, I wondered if everything might actually be true.
Update:
The comparison between North Korea’s missiles and the guy’s missile honestly made me laugh 😂😂
Maybe she’s actually funny once you meet her.
Other
Please don’t casually write things like, “I want to die.”
Try working as though your life depended on it.
Akari
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Whether he cuts you off depends on his personality and how much he likes you.
I think you should simply tell him that you’re not comfortable unless it’s at a hotel.
That said, why is someone who has a papa (a male supporter) paying ¥800,000 a month and taking her on trips to Ishigaki Island—and who meets a new papa every few days—asking such a basic question?