About last-minute offers: I’ve been getting quite a few offers the day before or even the same day lately. Since I’m often busy with work, our schedules rarely line up on such short notice, and I feel bad having to turn them down.
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To all the female members: Are you generally able to accept offers made the day before or on the same day?
Also, for the men making these offers, does it feel like they’re fine with meeting pretty much any girl who happens to be available?
I’m hoping for a long-term relationship, but I get the impression that men who make these kinds of offers are looking for something short-term. What are they actually like?
I’d appreciate any advice.
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I’ve never made an offer the day before or the day of, but I sometimes do so a few days in advance.
I can’t cancel at the last minute either, so I tend to wait until my schedule is fairly settled, which sometimes means making the offer closer to the date.
I’m basically looking for a long-term relationship, so making an offer at short notice doesn’t mean I’m only interested in something short-term.
That said, I think it’s unavoidable that the closer to the date the offer is made, the more likely it is to fall through without being finalized.
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You don’t need to feel discouraged.
Along with turning you down, did he suggest several alternative dates? If one of them works, there’s still a chance the offer could go through.
Since male members pay a setting fee, I don’t think they’re willing to meet just anyone whenever their schedule is open.
At the very least, you were chosen.
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I think I received an offer the day before once.
When an offer gets canceled and they need to find a replacement, it seems possible that they contact all the women who might be available and let the man choose.
The staff never say they’re just looking for anyone, but I imagine there must be women who cancel at the last minute.
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I’ve never had an offer come in the day before or on the day itself either.
It’s true that people often don’t have much availability at the last minute.
That said, I can understand not wanting to let the setting fall through. I do wish they’d make offers a little further in advance.
The man may also be someone who has trouble making plans and only knows his availability at the last minute—like, “Tomorrow at this time works!”
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With SALON, nothing has ever been arranged the day before for me. I’m usually contacted and asked to share which days I’m available that month. Then they’ll say something like, “Would this day or that day work for you?”
It seems Kazu has had arrangements finalized the day before through SALON, so I think it really depends on the person.
If I’m available, I’d be happy to accept even a day-before or same-day arrangement. Those dates might actually be easier to fit in.
A lot of people are probably busy, so I suppose it can’t be helped. But I don’t think a setting arranged suddenly is necessarily short-term. Likewise, deciding something well in advance doesn’t guarantee that it will lead to a long-term arrangement.
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I’ve never received an offer the day before through Universe, but at a salon, I have had an experience where tomorrow’s meeting was arranged the day before.
Some men may be willing to meet anyone, but I think most men who use dating clubs choose whom they want to make an offer to. I imagine that even men who make same-day or day-before offers are, in most cases, looking for someone available from among the women they’ve selected as candidates. (Conversely, I’ve also heard of men who choose from the women who happen to be available that day.)
Men who make offers at the last minute may be just as busy as you are, and unable to clear their schedules until the day before or the day of the meeting. In other words, it may simply be due to their lifestyle.
I don’t think the length of a relationship is necessarily related to the time between the offer and the arrangement. In many cases, how long it lasts is determined by the feelings and compatibility between both people after they meet.
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With agency introductions, I take the woman’s preferences into consideration, so I’ve never made an offer for the day before or the same day.
You could argue that, when it comes to a newly registered woman, meeting her sooner gives you an advantage. Even so, that’s still far too sudden.
Normally, I don’t think men make offers in a way that amounts to looking for a woman to meet today or tomorrow. If they’re looking, they’d probably search among women already within their dating circle.
Besides, a man who wants—or is already in—a long-term relationship wouldn’t make such a last-minute offer to a woman he’s meeting for the first time. The more he likes her and the more seriously he’s considering something long-term, the more he’d avoid it so as not to come across as rude.
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