Today, after our date, I messaged her to thank her, and she replied that she didn’t want to see me anymore. We had been having a great time until just moments earlier, so I was surprised and asked why. She responded with the following parting shot, then blocked me.
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“I had more regular arrangements come up, so I was planning to decide whom to continue seeing based on what happened on White Day. You’re the only one who didn’t give me anything in return. Thank you.”
I’ve never had anyone make such a blatantly snide remark to me before, so I was honestly quite put off. At my age, I’m not particularly interested in events like this, but are they really that important to women? Surely it’s pretty rare for someone to end things unilaterally just because they didn’t receive a return gift…
It’s not so much that I’m sad about the sudden breakup. I just never expected her to be that kind of person, so if anything, I’m almost relieved that we parted ways.
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That’s just an excuse.
Why take it at face value...?
It’s like a boss who doesn’t realize that their own behavior is the reason their employees keep quitting...
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She didn’t break up with you simply because “you didn’t get me anything for White Day!” You were probably already a low priority for her, and she was just looking for an excuse to end things.
Think about it. If her favorite handsome idol told her, “No White Day gift this time,” would she suddenly stop liking him?
That’s all there is to it.
P.S. Men in the papa age group generally don’t take events like White Day or Christmas all that seriously. That’s why I never use special occasions as an excuse to ask for things. The papas definitely like you better that way.
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Rather than it being specifically about Valentine’s Day, I try to give something back whenever I receive a gift.
Most of the people around me tend to give before they take, and I want to be that kind of person too, so I make an effort to keep it in mind.
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It’s just an excuse.
Even without a White Day gift, I probably would’ve continued if the allowance was generous. If all the allowances were about the same, though, it could be a factor in deciding.
I only give something in return to the people who gave me a gift.
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There are a lot of young women at dating clubs who are overly confident, aren’t there? (笑)
That said, I’m probably the same way. Since there’s often a significant age gap between people and their partners, I sometimes wonder whether they’re actually forcing themselves to be with us.
I think they ask for gifts around special events to make up for that, and then judge the gift and reflect it in how they continue the relationship. In that sense, events are important. (笑)
Still, in my experience, that usually only lasts for the first year or two after the relationship begins. Once more time has passed, they stop making unreasonable requests even for special events. (笑)
Since it sounds like you had quite a few partners, considering the various risks involved, maybe it was for the best after all... (笑)
Next time, try not to focus too much on looks and look for a woman who will genuinely engage with you.
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So when you say “there was no return gift…” that means a woman gave you something for Valentine’s Day, right?
And yet you didn’t give anything back… I feel sorry for her. Though I suppose that may have just been an excuse to end things.
Giving someone something for Valentine’s Day is entirely up to them, and of course it’s about their feelings. You could say, “I never asked her to give me anything,” and technically you’d be right… but naturally, you start hoping there might be something in return.
Even children expect to get something back on White Day when they give someone chocolate for Valentine’s Day.
You should be grateful to the woman for explaining her reasons properly and ending things with you.
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The fact that you see that as sarcasm is exactly what’s wrong with you.
You complain when someone suddenly blocks you, saying you want to know why, or that it’s awful to be dumped without an explanation.
Yet when someone gives you a perfectly valid reason, you call it sarcasm. I honestly can’t understand your mindset.
You need to reflect on your behavior much more seriously.
And, in the first place, not giving anything in return for White Day—how highly do you think of yourself? I’m shocked by how unpleasant your personality is.
Someone who receives a Valentine’s gift but gives nothing in return has serious issues as a human being.
I imagine you’re like that about everything.
The likelihood that a woman would want to date someone like you: 99.999998%.
Actually, you’re no longer a gentleman, so you’re violating Universe Club’s rule that “members must be gentlemen.”
If you can’t change your ways, I think you should stop dating through an arrangement club.
Go pick someone up on the street instead.
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I don’t think the event itself was particularly important, nor do I think it was meant as a jab.
They probably just used that as the criterion for narrowing things down because they had too many dating partners.
Still, it probably wouldn’t have worked out either way, so maybe it’s for the best. I think it simply came down to compatibility.
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Well, if you received a Valentine’s gift, I can’t imagine not giving something in return…
On the other hand, if she didn’t give you anything for Valentine’s Day but still expects a return gift, then she’s the one being unreasonable.
White Day is an occasion for returning Valentine’s gifts. If you received one, you should return the favor—but if you didn’t, expecting one in return is unreasonable.
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