A papa (52) said to me, “Women in their early 20s see guys like us as old men, and we also think they’re immature. I usually meet women in their 30s. But someone around your age (I’m 25) should be okay, right?”
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Does that mean he thinks I don’t see him as an old man? I honestly don’t understand what he’s getting at.
From a 25-year-old’s perspective, even a 40-year-old is an old man. And when someone is over 50, they’re older than my parents, so I can’t even tell whether to think of them as an old man or a grandfather.
Why is this old man so hung up on being seen as an old man?
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Then maybe you should just reply:
“I assume you’re an older man, but that’s fine.”
Once you’re over 25, you’re basically an “around-thirty auntie,” right?
↑ No, no—that makes no sense.
Don’t you think, “I’m still nowhere near being an auntie”?
Everyone sees things differently, so as long as they’re not harming anyone, just ignore them.
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Even someone in their 30s can be considered an older man.
Since not many people enjoy being treated as “an old man,” or even want to be seen that way, if she’s a good match, I don’t think you need to fixate on that label either.
Put yourself in the opposite position: you might also find it irritating to be treated like a child by papas simply because you don’t have much work experience yet.
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I can understand why a man might ask a question like that, but I also feel it’s not really something you should ask the other person to confirm（笑）
How should I put it? Being seen as an older guy is the same either way, but somehow there’s a difference. Maybe “an older guy who feels close to you” versus “an older guy who feels distant”? Though in the end, they’re both still older guys. From the man’s perspective, though, it’s actually a pretty significant difference. I’m sure women will never understand that.
If he asks, just brush it off with something like, “Of course it’s fine~! Though what do I know?♪”
There are some things in life that are better left unresolved.
Taro
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He’s simply worried about it.
Even outside the club, I ask women in their early or late twenties out on dates without worrying about their age or how I’m perceived. If they’re not interested in me, they can just decline the invitation.
With the club, though, the first date is essentially a blind introduction, so it’s harder to tell what someone around 20 thinks of me. That makes me a little more likely to avoid that age group.
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I’m an older guy, but I’m not specifically set on dating older men.
That said, women in their early twenties often seem young to me, so I’ve increasingly been seeing women in their late twenties instead.
Even when we’re just having dinner at a restaurant together, I prefer women who are a little more mature and composed.
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