Are there people in long-distance relationships through a dating club—not genuine romance, but an arrangement that includes an allowance?
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The woman I met through Universe recently is moving back to her hometown, which is far enough away to require a flight, so it’ll be difficult for us to meet often from now on.
It may have just been a polite remark, but she told me, “Please let me know when you’re nearby,” and, “I’d like to see you when I visit Tokyo.”
I feel the same way, and as a sign that I’d like to continue our relationship, I’d like to keep exchanging messages with her on LINE. I’m also thinking of sending her gifts or money through PayPay or LINE, even if it’s only around the amount you’d give a child for pocket money.
Aside from gifts or money transfers, do you have any tips or real-life experiences for maintaining this kind of long-distance arrangement?
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I think it’s best to meet often enough that you can make concrete plans for your next date—at least once a month, ideally.
You could cover her transportation and accommodations and invite her to come see you.
Marika
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Meeting locally is riskier for me, so I often make offers to women in the Kanto area and travel to Kanagawa or Tokyo myself to spend time with them.
If they’re busy too, our schedules sometimes don’t line up and things fizzle out, but my own schedule is relatively flexible, so most arrangements have continued fairly well.
Another reason may be that I only see women who understand from the start that I’m looking for a monthly arrangement with an allowance of five per pay-per-meeting.
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Welcome back! (For Awa-Awa)
For my monthly partners who live far away, I cover the Green Car fare and add ¥20,000 to their allowance.
So if the original amount is ¥120,000, I give them ¥140,000, plus the Green Car fare separately. Even if they come in a non-reserved seat, I still give them the Green Car fare. It’s part of my effort to maintain the relationship.
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I’m home♪
I travel back and forth between Shizuoka and Shiga, and I’ll get in touch whenever I do. Since my living situation will be changing too, there may be times when I can’t respond to a flood of messages.
In the end, I’ve had the longest-lasting arrangements with people who don’t keep pestering me when I don’t get back to them (*^^*)
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Makeoshi-san, nice to meet you! I have a traumatic memory from my teens of accidentally getting on a Green Car and being scolded, so I’ve always found them scary（笑） I got scolded on the bus too……oh no (;˙꒳˙ 三 ˙꒳˙ 三 ˙꒳˙;) oh no. 12? Isn’t that a lot? I’m too scared to touch it…
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Before COVID, I had women I was seeing in Sapporo, Nagoya, Osaka, and Fukuoka.
When the pandemic reduced my business trips, I wasn’t able to see them as often, and things ended with the women in Nagoya and Osaka. I’m still seeing the ones in Sapporo and Fukuoka.
Since simply staying in touch via LINE without an allowance being provided only puts a burden on the women, I believe the most important thing is simply to meet as often as possible.
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I also have someone I’ve continued seeing while traveling for work. Just like with someone local, we agreed at the beginning of the relationship to meet at about this frequency.
When she wants to meet more often (and receive more allowance), she comes to see me, and I cover her travel expenses.
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We lived far enough apart that seeing each other required a flight, and we met about once every two months for roughly a week at a time. The allowance was 300,000 yen. We kept it going for six years and traveled to around 20 different places.
We had similar tastes in movies and plenty to talk about, which made it easier to keep things going.
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I have someone I see when I’m traveling for work, and sometimes I pay their transportation costs so they can come see me (of course, I also give them their allowance separately).
I think it would be difficult to maintain the relationship without seeing each other at all, so if it’s someone you want to continue seeing, it’s probably best to cover their travel expenses and allowance, then either go see them or have them come to you.
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