Various papas often tell me, “I have absolutely nothing to complain about when it comes to you. I’ve never met a girl this much fun to be around.”

Even with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you’re still dealing with another person, so I think consideration and thoughtfulness are important. Some people find it painful to accommodate others, while others can do it without much difficulty. I’m sure it varies from person to person. Since you’re doing it anyway, it would be nice to interact without feeling burdened by it. I think you’re doing your best.

In the past, there was one girl whom I genuinely believe felt completely comfortable with me. She would tell me all sorts of things, including about her other papas, and I would listen and offer advice. We’d even have the occasional argument. I also gave her the largest allowance. So yes, I think I was in what people here would call a situation where she had me completely wrapped around her finger. We eventually parted ways because she moved on to a different stage of life. I’m currently seeing a few girls, and judging from what they’ve told me, I do think I’m better than the other papas they’ve met. But I’m not complacent enough to think they have no complaints or that they truly feel comfortable with me. That’s why, as I mentioned in an answer to another question before, I give them somewhat more than the going rate you often hear about here.

If it’s coming from a papa you’ve been seeing regularly, I think he probably means it. If he didn’t like you, he’d likely be the one to end things… It’s true that communicating with a papa can take a lot of effort. The larger the age gap—five, ten, or twenty years—the harder communication at the first meeting seems to become. That may be true with business contacts too. You’re clearly trying very hard, so hang in there. Is there a papa you can be honest with? If so, I think it’s perfectly fine to gradually focus on just him. That’s what happened with me in the end, too. Earlier, I was eating soba in Ebisu with my generous (well-paying) papa, who I’m currently arguing with, and he told me, “You really are such a difficult woman!” But apparently he’s still coming to see me tomorrow, one way or another. He really doesn’t have to. If you find someone you can become that close with, I feel like things with your other papas will naturally fade out.

Given the age gap, I think it’s only natural for them to have complaints and frustrations. Of course. They’re expected to sleep with some old guy more than 20 years their senior. So, as the least I can do to make up for that, I offer an allowance higher than the going rate. I’ve had full-body hair removal, treated my age spots, lost weight, worked out, fixed my teeth, taken care of my nails, and paid attention to my scent—I’ve done everything I can. Even so, I’m still constantly worried. Recently, a former top girl told me, “Even my own parents have never looked after me this well,” and was incredibly grateful. But I don’t take it at face value. In the end, all I’m doing is giving her more money. I’m a coward, so I’m always nervous, but recently a new woman I met told me, “I felt safe meeting you because you had five stars.” That was the first time I learned how I’m objectively rated. Still, the women who leave feedback are probably just being considerate, so even a good rating doesn’t give me much confidence.