He keeps telling me things like, “I think buying stuff like this is a waste,” “You should spend your money on something useful,” and “You don’t need clothes.”
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It’s not that I necessarily want the things themselves—I can buy fun times and memories—but he says this right when I’m trying to enjoy myself. Does he realize I’m starting to dislike him?
Don’t you think living a life where you can only buy necessities is boring? What’s wrong with that guy?
When you go shopping with your P, can you accept things without hesitation when he offers to buy them? Or does he nag you the whole time?
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Maybe you’re the one inviting him shopping, and he’s only tagging along reluctantly?
If that’s the case, it might explain why he makes comments like that.
Still, the fact that he says things like that probably means he thinks the two of you have gotten close.
You could try saying something like:
“I want to share a fun shopping experience with you, so do you realize that every time you say things like that, I like you a little less? We’re not talking about whether it’s a waste of money—just whether it suits me.”
Though he sounds like the type who’d come back twice as strong if you said that...
In any case, if you’ve come to dislike him, I think it’s perfectly fine to end things.
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He sounds like a papa (a male supporter) who does nothing but complain. If he didn’t think it was worthwhile, he should have declined from the start. How pathetic to say that in front of a woman.
I’ve never had a papa say anything like that when I go shopping with him. In fact, I don’t think a normal papa would say such a thing. Either there’s something a little off about him, or you’re being too pushy about getting him to buy things. I think the reason has to be one of those two.
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I think it comes down to a fundamental difference in values. In some cases, they genuinely don’t mean any harm and truly see it that way.
If your papa is in his 40s or older, he probably won’t change going forward.
When I’m shopping with my PJ, I go with my intuition and the moment. When I genuinely think, “This is really nice—I want to buy it for her,” it feels as though someone is giving me that final push. Those purchases usually turn out to be good ones.
I also believe that shopping is about the connections and timing you encounter.
It’s me.
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If the papa (male supporter) was the one who invited you shopping and then said something like that, he must be an idiot. He could simply have not invited you.
Even if you were the one who invited him shopping and he said that, he could have just declined. He must be an idiot either way.
Sorry you had to deal with someone so foolish.
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I only go when my papa says, “Let’s go—I’ll buy it for you,” so that hasn’t happened to me.
Aren’t you pressuring her even though she doesn’t want to?
If that’s not the case, then he’s simply a jerk (P).
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I find the whole process of trying to read each other’s intentions tiring, so I don’t usually invite her shopping.
When I do, it’s only because there’s something I want to give her as a present.
Otherwise, I don’t comment on what she chooses to buy for herself.
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