Just having a meal together?
The cost of an adult relationship (intimate)?
Dating expenses?
Are you supposed to give an allowance in each of these situations?
Sorry for the beginner’s question.
Please enlighten me.
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I give the allowance as a lump sum.
That said, I think anything is fine as long as both parties are happy with the allowance arrangement.
If you’d prefer to separate it into an allowance for dinner, an allowance for an adult relationship (intimate), and the cost of the date, then that’s perfectly fine too.
However, I always think of the allowance as something other than wages.
I don’t want to be involved with women who view it as earning money or getting paid.
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I’m a new respondent here.
At the beginning of a relationship, I give an allowance as a matter of etiquette, but as things progress, I feel it gradually takes on more of a pocket-money or thank-you aspect, as others have mentioned. So it does tend to increase over time.
I generally give an allowance in every situation, but if I accompany someone shopping at their request, I’ll cover the cost of the shopping but don’t give a separate allowance. I suppose it depends on the circumstances.
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>If this is a relationship where an allowance is expected, you need to give one each time.
However, if it’s all part of a single date—such as going out to see something together, having dinner, and then going to a hotel—it’s generally customary to give the allowance as one payment.
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I don’t really overthink the allowance itself when I give it.
I guess it’s kind of like giving my wife or kids spending money. I’m not expecting anything in return—it’s more like, “Use this to buy something you like and enjoy yourself.”
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An allowance is essentially a token of appreciation.
Since it’s a thank-you for being in a relationship with you, some people feel it should be given simply for maintaining the relationship, whether or not you go on a date.
What someone expects an allowance for varies from person to person, so when it’s appropriate—or expected—to give one depends on the individual.
Talk it over with your partner.
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