Tips Feb 27, 2022 00:28

My papa keeps taking me to busy restaurants near the station because they’re close to the hotel. Some of them mainly attract people in their 20s and 30s, so I’m worried someone might recognize me, and I feel self-conscious about people staring. Doesn’t he care that these places don’t have many older men or papa-katsu couples? Another papa who takes me by taxi to upscale restaurants without me having to ask for anything seems much more gentlemanly. But I feel like he’d be put off if I suggested that myself, and somehow it doesn’t feel right. Is there any way I can subtly encourage him?

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Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I’d say it, even if it means we have to part ways. Unfortunately, I don’t think it’s going to work out... Let’s look for another papa (a male supporter).
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You’re better off parting ways with a papa who reacts badly to your suggestions. There’s no point in pursuing an arrangement that only causes you stress.
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Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
If you’re feeling frustrated and stewing over it, I think you should simply tell him what you want. Even if he dislikes it and you end up parting ways, wouldn’t that be better for your mental health than staying together while bottling everything up? This isn’t something you should force yourself to endure.
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Why not just say, “I’m worried I might run into friends or someone I know”? Normally, I’d suggest changing the type of restaurant or getting a private room. It’s better to be straightforward about that. If you oddly say something like, “I’d prefer a place for older people,” they might misunderstand and insist on Sugamo, which could end with nobody being happy. Though, to be fair, Sugamo is fun too. Taro
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