From the posts and answers here, I get the impression that people tend to go to restaurants at hotels or other relatively expensive places.

If there’s plenty of cash involved, I guess it’s fine.

> I assume the women don’t really mind either. Actually, it’s possible they’d like to try other kinds of restaurants, but you just haven’t noticed. > But is it likely that the women actually dislike it? Even if they don’t dislike it, they may still want to go somewhere other than an izakaya. They might also be picking up on how much you like izakayas and feel unable to suggest going somewhere else. By the way, do you take them to a different izakaya every time? If it’s always the same place, they might understandably get tired of it. > I’ve met around 20 women so far. Out of 20 women, statistically speaking, it wouldn’t be surprising if at least one of them disliked izakayas. What do you think? In my experience, even if you ask a woman: “What kind of food do you like?” “What would you like to eat?” when you’re still getting to know each other, she may be trying to be considerate of her papa or feel uncomfortable being completely honest. So you may not be able to find out where she really wants to go. Even if she says, “I’m fine with an izakaya,” you can’t tell whether she genuinely likes izakayas or simply feels awkward suggesting a more expensive restaurant. I take women’s own descriptions and profiles as a reference, but for the first date, I suggest about three restaurants from different types and let them choose. I repeat this roughly three times while gradually figuring out their genuine preferences. As I suggest around ten restaurants, I start to understand what they like and dislike based on which places they choose, what comments they make, and how they react once we’re there. Ideally, I’d figure it out in one shot, but I still have a lot to learn(^^; Since you’ve already been on several dates with them, try casually asking, “Is there anywhere besides an izakaya you’d like to try?” I’m sure they’ll tell you.

If it’s an izakaya that costs around ¥10,000–¥30,000 for two people, they’re probably setting a good tone, so I don’t think there’s any problem. For a first meeting, I sometimes choose a safe option like a hotel restaurant, but after the second meeting, it depends.

As long as we’re both comfortable, I think anywhere is fine. But for the first meeting, she’s probably nervous, and there are other people around. Since we met through a dating club, I usually choose a private room for the first time. From the second meeting onward, we can discuss where to meet next, so sometimes we go to a private karaoke room. I can’t take my mask off until we’re inside the private room, though… haha.

I think it’s best to ask the woman herself. Everyone has different preferences. The reason I don’t choose izakayas is that I don’t personally like them, and her profile doesn’t say that she enjoys izakaya food. When I first joined, I often used hotel restaurants, but these days I hardly ever do.

Why not ask the person you’ve gotten close to how they feel? I wonder what they’re looking for. As for Fuu, I’m flexible and don’t force my own preferences on others (humblebrag lol). What I want to achieve is simply to give them a fun time they’ll enjoy, so I choose a nice restaurant that serves food they like, but…