Former member here. I’d love to hear about the kind of goodbye you ideally want, or any breakup experiences you’ve had.

I left the club a few years ago, and I’m turning 30 this year. I currently have just one papa (a male supporter), and we’ve been seeing each other for several years, but given my age, I’m thinking about starting婚活. Honestly, I’d be truly happy if I could marry my current papa, but of course, he says that his family comes first. So far, we’ve repeatedly ended up parting on bad terms after arguments, and every time I think, “I really don’t want things to end like this.” Ideally, I’d like to keep seeing my papa until I get a boyfriend and decide to move in with him, then say, “Actually, I’m going to move in with him. Thank you so much for everything,” and say goodbye. Or maybe continue meeting him occasionally even after I get married. I told him this, but he said, “I don’t really care how you do it. You could just say, ‘I’m getting married, so bye!’ But if you look for someone assuming I’ll still be around, you’re only going to end up hurting yourself (and you already have).” To be honest, I feel that my ideal situation would be insincere toward several people. At the same time, I think, “Is it really worth worrying about being insincere at this point?” and “Whatever happens will happen, so there’s no point thinking about it now.” Could you share examples from your past relationships, such as: “This was a good way to say goodbye,” or “This was the worst”? I’d also love to hear about parting ways with someone you’d been seeing for a long time, if possible. I’d like to use your experiences as a guide for the future. Thank you.