Why do they try to treat me as an equal even though they’re over 20 years older?
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He’s an old man, you know? At best, he could be my parent. Does he realize that? It’s gross how he seems to want a genuinely romantic vibe. Is he trying to be like a guy his own age? That’s impossible, right?
For example, even when I tell him, “I didn’t like it when you did ~,” he refuses to back down and insists that he’s right, saying, “You’re at fault too, XX-chan.” It’s seriously annoying.
How much younger than him does he think I am?
He’s an old man, so he should just give in.
They absolutely never apologize, do they? Why is that?
I can’t help feeling from things like this that he’s a small-time rich guy with no emotional leeway. Are they aware of it?
Do your papas apologize properly?
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Isn’t your papa trying to assert dominance rather than treat you as an equal?
Saying, “You’re an old man, so just give in,” makes no sense.
You also seem to have strong ideas about how “old men should be,” so I think you’re actually quite similar in that neither of you is willing to compromise on certain things.
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I believe the healthiest relationships are those where neither person is above the other and both are treated as equals.
If I feel I’ve done something wrong, I apologize.
But I wouldn’t want to continue seeing someone like you, the questioner.
You’d be better off, mentally, with a man you can respect as a person—not someone you’re only seeing for the money.
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Why do you keep seeing someone who says things like:
“Gross.”
“No way.”
“A small-time rich guy who can’t afford it.”
End things with him and teach him a lesson.
Saying it here won’t get through to him, so it’s pointless.
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Our senpai, kouhai, or Joe himself may have caused you some inconvenience. We’d appreciate it if you could be a little lenient, and if you could replace words like “gross” and “no way” with something a bit more tactful, then perhaps—just perhaps—your wallet strings might loosen a little.
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If you haven’t been seeing him for very long, you shouldn’t say exactly what Aya said. He might fly into a rage, and you never know what he might do.
I think a lot of papas are simply not good at apologizing. Hopefully, you can handle the situation maturely…
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That sounds really rough. But honestly, there are probably very few papa-katsu men who can sincerely apologize to a woman 20 or 30 years younger than them. So I think you just have to find a way to communicate with people like that without letting it stress you out.
Earlier, a papa said something rude to me, so—leaving out the details—I said, “Are you really getting that angry with a woman more than 20 years younger than you? You’ve been doing that a lot lately. If you keep this up, people around you are going to start calling you a stubborn old man!?”
The papa burst out laughing and said, “I’ll beat you up!!”
Written down, it may sound incredibly rude, but we both say whatever’s on our minds. It can turn into something like an argument, but it doesn’t stress me out.
Update: As Nana Ayase says, if you say something like this to a papa you don’t have that kind of relationship with, he may fly off the handle, so please don’t do it.
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