There are men here who regularly want unprotected sex—are they prepared to end up with HIV or syphilis? Personally, I think they should suffer excruciating pain in their lower body and have to pay for treatment out of pocket. I don’t think people who have had unprotected sex should be covered by health insurance.

Negotiation means discussing something with the goal of reaching an agreement with the other person, so technically, there is room for negotiation. That said, I understand why you feel that, since the woman has already clearly said she doesn’t want to, you wish he wouldn’t try to negotiate from there. Still, most people have spent their lives negotiating one way or another, so even if it’s a hassle, I think you should make it clear that it’s absolutely not going to happen. If you’re considerate and gentle at this point, they may misunderstand and think there’s still room to negotiate. If it’s absolutely impossible regardless of how they negotiate, make sure you communicate that clearly.

Of course they’re not prepared for it. They’re just uninformed. It’s me.

Syphilis is scary, isn’t it? This happened quite a while ago, but my monthly arrangement partner tested positive for syphilis, and I nearly caught it from him. Thankfully, I tested negative, but the frustrating thing about syphilis is how long the incubation period can be—more than a month after sexual contact. Even though I didn’t know whether I was positive, I took penicillin out of pocket for a month. At least penicillin is cheap.