Nice to meet you.

You sound great, questioner. I think you’re exactly the type of woman most men prefer. I want you to go into the date just as you are. However, as the other respondents have pointed out, make sure you mentally rehearse how you’ll handle the allowance. At Universe Club, the median allowance for an adult relationship (intimate) is 5. Women ranging from 18 to around 55 are registered there, and the average is about 5. Some women receive only 2, while others get 20 or 30—so it averages out to around 5. Just make sure you decide in advance whether you’re willing to accept an adult relationship for 3 or 4, or whether you’ll ask for 5. Good luck!!

> But I’m really nervous, and if he leaves disappointed, there’s nothing I can do. What should I do…? I think you’ll probably be nervous on your first date, but that may be because it’s a date arranged through a dating club. If it were an ordinary date, I don’t think you’d feel quite so nervous. First of all, the fact that you received an offer means that the man liked your appearance and the way you speak. So I think he’ll be satisfied as long as you simply behave naturally, just as you did during the interview. That said, some men offer an extremely low allowance, lecture women, or even urinate on their faces. Unbelievable things that make you think, “You’ve got to be kidding me,” really do happen. Being grateful is important, but if anything feels even slightly strange, you also need to be mentally prepared to avoid danger. Not everyone is a good person, so stay cautious, prepare yourself emotionally so you don’t get hurt, and act in a way you won’t regret. I wish everyone were kind, but people are all different… >＜ For example, suppose he asks during dinner, “Can you go further after this?” and you answer yes, then go to a hotel room. If you haven’t discussed the allowance, the man might say afterward, “What? I thought you didn’t want an allowance and that this was just a free relationship.” So if you’re invited to a room, make sure to confirm the allowance before going in. I know it can be difficult to bring it up yourself, but when he asks something like, “Can you go further after this?” that’s your chance. It’s only natural to ask about the allowance so you can decide whether you’re willing to go further, so he shouldn’t find it strange if you ask at that point. If he asks, “How much would you like for after this?” it might be safest to ask him in return: “What amount did you have in mind?” Once you’re in the room, you also need to confirm whether he’ll use a condom. If you don’t say anything, many men will assume that going without one is fine. It may seem like another “You’ve got to be kidding me” moment, but you really do need to confirm these things. > How should I express my gratitude to him…? Start by telling him in words. After that, I think it will naturally come through in your attitude, so you don’t need to worry.

This may be out of step with the general consensus, but personally, I think 40 is young—quite young, actually. It’s an age when you’re really in your prime. And you’ve got plenty of energy. Besides, the man was the one who made the offer. Go into the date with confidence. That said, the real thing you need to prepare for is deciding on the allowance. Will you accept less than the going rate? Will you go to a hotel even if the allowance hasn’t been clearly stated? Or will you make sure the allowance is agreed on in advance? I think you should decide how you want to handle that before going on the date. I’m rooting for you.

I think you should simply express your honest feelings, just as you’ve written them here. At the same time, it’s important not to expect too much from the other person and to approach them as an equal. Don’t be overly modest—feel free to show off your魅力 as a woman.

I’m in a similar situation to you, too. I have very little experience with men, so I signed up with SALON. Since I don’t usually interact with men much, I was nervous from the interview onward. I’m truly grateful to the staff. I worried that, with my limited experience, I might not be able to satisfy a man, and even wondered if I should find a friends-with-benefits arrangement first. But even if he wasn’t my type, I thought I might be able to continue if it was free… Because this is a relationship where an allowance is involved, I think we’ll naturally do our best to satisfy our partners and make every effort to have them continue seeing us. If you say too much along the lines of, “I’m so grateful that someone like me received an offer,” it may come across negatively and create a bad impression. I think it’s better to simply and casually say that you were genuinely happy to receive the offer. As you continue building the relationship, I’m sure your gratitude will come across naturally. I hope you enjoy yourself tomorrow!

Go in as yourself. I’m in my late 40s, so there’s no need to feel apologetic. Hold your head high. I answer questions here, but before joining a dating club, I had only been with two people. I was a virgin when I got married. Looking back, I wish I’d dated and had fun with more people before getting married. So you don’t get carried away tomorrow and forget: After having dinner with the man, if he says, “Shall we go?” negotiate your allowance and make sure he wears a condom before going to the hotel. If he tells you, “No woman your age uses condoms,” try saying, “I’ve learned a lot from the Q&A site.” You can even tell him Ayase Nana said so. If you get too eager and go without protection, you could catch an STI. Please be careful. Once you’re at the hotel, make sure you receive both your transportation fee and your allowance for the adult relationship. Don’t forget… Also, never tell him personal details such as where you live. Be vague, or you may end up being stalked. Take care, and have a safe trip♡

That’s exactly why you have a dinner date first. I think it would be good to say something like, “I don’t have much experience for my age, so I’m nervous, but I’m happy you reached out to me.” Being so nervous that you barely speak, or being completely unresponsive at 40, might be a bit much—but as long as you come across as genuinely trying, I think you’ll be fine. Marika

I think you’ll be fine. He knows your age and still made you an offer. If he wanted professional-level sexual skills, he’d go to a sex service. As long as he can feel how much you want to please him and how hard you’re trying, I think it’ll be okay. That kind of genuine, innocent feeling is precious. Enjoy yourself too, and take in the experience. Hopefully, it’s an offer from a good papa (a male supporter)...

In many cases, women with more experience aren’t preferred at dating clubs. It’s probably best to just be yourself. I hope it turns into a great connection!