I’m a Type C on the dating app. Twice now, when meeting someone for the first time at a café, the other person has wanted to go to a hotel after only about 10 minutes. If they want sex that quickly, wouldn’t a brothel be a better option? Why are they being so impatient?

I don’t think I’m particularly impatient. The one time I made an offer to a Type D woman, we talked at a café for about ten minutes, and once we agreed on the terms, we went to a hotel. Honestly, I feel like you can tell what someone’s like after talking for ten minutes or so. I’m curious about what kind of arrangements she’s had with other men, so I’d like to ask about that. And while you’re talking about things in the hotel, the atmosphere can naturally become more intimate, right? With a Type C woman, I take my time over a meal the first time. But from the second meeting onward, meeting directly at a hotel is pretty common. Besides, eating a lot can sometimes make it harder to perform, so I’ve always preferred to eat afterward.

That’s awful for a Type C arrangement. When men join, they’re told that things generally start with a meal, so I assume this was someone who ignored the basic guidelines and suggested meeting at a café instead. I can’t help wondering whether someone like that would be fine with being turned down by a woman after just 10 minutes at a café. They seem not to understand that you’re supposed to meet, have a conversation over a meal, and only move on to an adult relationship (intimate) if the woman feels comfortable with him too. In that situation, since you can’t know whether you click after just 10 minutes, I think it would be perfectly fine to say, “I can’t really tell how we click yet. Would you like to invite me on another date?” and end the meeting there. In the first place, even if you went out with a man like that, it’s obvious from his behavior that he isn’t thinking about the woman, so I doubt it would turn into a good relationship. That said, in your case, you felt that way because he was simply a terrible male member who wasn’t paying attention to his partner. If the woman was also waiting for that kind of arrangement, then I assume she understood exactly what she was getting into and agreed to it. In the end, what matters is how the woman felt about it. That’s precisely why the club has a system where members who accumulate too many bad reviews are asked to leave. On the other hand, members who can reach an agreement within 10 minutes at a café and receive good reviews are considered worth keeping in the club. Occasionally, you’ll see people say things like: “What’s wrong with that? That woman just happened to leave a bad review. I don’t think I did anything wrong.” But if it were only an occasional bad review, the club wouldn’t send them a warning. They’re being warned because multiple women have given them bad reviews. Anyone who can’t understand that is incredibly self-centered and really needs to start considering the women they’re dealing with. I hope this man receives the worst possible review.

It’s probably fair to say that there are a certain number of papas like that who are energetic and panting. Personally, though, I suspect they’re the exception.

Why? Because they’re only after sex, obviously lol. If you want to cut down on offers from guys like that, it might help to word your profile a little more carefully, with things like: “I love eating,” or “I’d like to enjoy spending time over a meal, too.” The way someone eats, behaves, and carries on a conversation can tell you a lot—and they’re watching you, too. For a papa (a male supporter) who wants to spend plenty of time and money building a genuinely good relationship with a woman, this dinner filter might actually work in your favor. Am I being too naive? lol

I’m not really sure what to make of it. Still, there are some women—maybe around 5%—who find going out for meals a hassle and would rather skip straight to an adult relationship (intimate) and get their allowance. Looks like impatient people exist regardless of gender.

The process of winning someone over is the fun part, though... If he’s suggesting just 10 minutes at a café, he’s definitely either a “Sanshiro” (allowance of 3–4) or “Ramen Jiro” (allowance of 2), so keep turning them down. There really are all kinds of older guys out there...

No wayyy—without even knowing if there’s any chemistry, do they think a hotel is the only point? That’s disgusting… And you haven’t even negotiated the allowance, right? Maybe you’re just incredibly sexy if men want to go to a hotel right away. The moment they see you, their excitement might shoot through the roof. If people keep sneaking glances at you (/ω・＼)ﾁﾗﾁﾗ while you’re walking around town, then you must have some seriously powerful pheromones…♡ I’m so jealous.

Wow… so that’s what happened. As you suspect, he probably wants to find out as soon as possible whether you’re physically compatible. If that kind of thing makes you uncomfortable, I’d recommend B. That way, you’re less likely to end up with any bad blood between you.