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Feb 7, 2022 20:31
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🏅 手コキ評論家
入会して8年。いまだ彷徨中です
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
Joe also has two women he sees for dinner only (no intimacy), so I understand the questioner’s papa (a male supporter). They may be a minority on Universe, but I suspect there are quite a few supporters like that.
One of them doesn’t want sex, and the other simply doesn’t turn Joe on. Even so, the relationships continue. Other needs besides sexual desire are being met. I’m having lunch at a sushi restaurant with the second woman tomorrow. It’s a fairly expensive place. Afterward, we’ll browse used bookstores. She’ll probably ask for a somewhat pricey specialized book, and I’ll be happy to buy it for her.
To her, I’m probably just an older guy who treats her to delicious meals and buys her expensive books. She’s a woman in STEM, but she satisfies Joe’s intellectual curiosity. If we only meet once a month, I look forward to seeing her.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
If she has already left the club because she felt that its direction—or papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—wasn’t right for her, then perhaps she simply prefers meeting for dinner and has a firm belief that she doesn’t want intimacy unless she’s being paid for it.
Considering transportation costs, you could also see the ¥10,000 for dinner as meaning she’s essentially meeting you without you paying anything.
Maybe she’s waiting for you to eventually say, “You don’t need to pay me—let’s do it,” or perhaps she loses interest once things become intimate.
It’s hard to know without asking her directly, but if you’re happy to continue the relationship as it is, I think it’s fine to carry on.
That said, your papa (a male supporter) seems quite the strategist, making you wonder, “Why doesn’t he ever ask me out?”
If you hadn’t had this question box, you might have fallen right into his trap and ended up sleeping with him.
So in that sense, I feel a little bad for getting in the way.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
If it’s only about once a month, it feels like a hassle to invite her, and if you have another adult partner, there’s no need to initiate anything yourself. With many Type B women, the conversation naturally turns to an adult relationship (intimate) from her side even without the man bringing it up, so there’s no need to ask until she does.
But if it’s dinner only (no intimacy), that means being together has more value to her, right?
If the value is mainly in spending time together, then dinner only seems too little—the difference compared with an adult relationship (intimate) isn’t that significant.
Other
Even you, a B-type asker, were surprised, so it’s honestly shocking that there are men like that even for you, Marika! I really wonder why he hasn’t asked you out!
Marika
Other
Maybe he just can’t be bothered—perhaps it feels like too much effort, or he can’t get it up.
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
There was a woman like that last year, so I know exactly what you mean.
He already has another regular adult arrangement, and she’s someone he pays ¥10,000 to for a nice meal when he’s bored. Basically, his own personal hostess club.
But that guy has left the site, so maybe he just can’t be bothered to pursue her anymore.
I’d ended up with too many personal hostess clubs and was getting bored, so I ended things with all of them this year.
If you’re not short on money, a monthly dinner-only arrangement will probably just fizzle out eventually.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
Isn’t it kind of empty to pay an allowance for an adult relationship (intimate)?
Given my current mindset, I can kind of understand that feeling.
Other
Maybe he simply enjoys having dinner with you and is happy with that alone.
I think you must be a wonderful person—perhaps you’re great at conversation, or so beautiful that he doesn’t feel he can make a move!