If you had 10 monthly-arrangement men, what percentage do you think would still be around after a year?
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I had monthly arrangements with seven men, but only one was still around after a year (lol).
They ranged from seeing me once or twice a month to four times a week on a monthly basis, but the only one who lasted was the four-times-a-week guy, who I’m also the most compatible with. We message each other every day.
He gives me a monthly allowance of ¥1 million, so even when the other men stopped seeing me, it wasn’t a major financial loss.
I’m not currently registered with any dating club (I’m on a leave of absence).
I’m worried because I have no idea how long this monthly arrangement with him will last.
I’d like to build relationships with several monthly supporters who stick around for a long time, like Aya does. I haven’t met that many men, and I’ve only been active for a year, so is it still too soon to expect that?
The man who gives me ¥1 million a month was someone I met through another club. He might also be on Universe Club, so I’m currently unable to register there again....
After being active for a year and having only one monthly supporter, does that mean I’m just not cut out for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
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Four times a week sounds like you’re seeing him almost every day.
If you’re getting along that well right now, I feel like the relationship may continue for quite a while. Of course, if he finds another woman, there’s a possibility the relationship could end, so I think it’s only natural to prepare for that.
That said, there probably aren’t many men who pay a monthly allowance of 1 million yen, so in this case, I think it would be best not to do anything until your relationship with him ends.
> After doing papa-katsu for a year, I only have one monthly arrangement. Does that mean I’m not cut out for papa-katsu?
If things are going well with a papa who pays 1 million yen a month, I’d say you clearly have what it takes.
However, if things with your current papa do end and you register with a dating club again, I think you should try to keep a few men around this time.
The reason is probably that the other papas noticed you were prioritizing the one who paid 1 million yen a month.
Next time, you’ll need some strategy—either avoid letting them find out, or find a way to stir up their competitive spirit.
Still, I think you should focus on continuing to have a good relationship with your current papa for now.
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I don’t know much about the arrangements other people have through dating clubs, but if things last about a year, the relationship usually becomes stable and is likely to continue even longer. It also depends a lot on the papa, but I think you have plenty of potential.
That said, the monthly ¥1 million allowance does give me pause. The more someone has to spend, the harder it can become to maintain the arrangement...
If circumstances allow, lowering the monthly amount might make it easier for the man to continue seeing you. However, dating clubs are places where people who can afford it will pay, so I can’t say for sure.
In the end, the money for the arrangement comes out of the man’s personal spending budget. As long as that allowance isn’t a burden for him, there shouldn’t be a problem.
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Why are you so afraid of losing touch with him? If you’re that close, I think it could last for several years.
I also message multiple papas every day, and we get along really well. Once things get this close, you’re still very much in the honeymoon phase even after a year or two lol.
So I think you can relax. Saving as much as you can while things are going well will give you even more peace of mind.
If you’re worried and also feel that signing up with another dating club would be risky, one last option might be to try working at a lounge, which is a relatively low-key type of nightlife job.
Early on in my papa-katsu experience, I worked at lounges and clubs in Roppongi and Ginza, and that’s where I met papas from overseas.
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If anything, that’s a high continuation rate, not a low one.
And if you have a papa (a male supporter) giving you a monthly allowance of 100, you probably shouldn’t be asking for more.
What you need to think about is how to make the most of that monthly 100. Saving it isn’t a bad idea, but there are probably better ways to put it to use.
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I haven’t even been doing this for a year yet, so I can’t really answer, but…
Seeing an allowance of ¥1 million a month is amazing, but meeting four times a week feels like more than most people even see their boyfriend these days.
If that’s the case, I think you’re amazing! I don’t think you lack talent at all.
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