Yesterday, a papa I’ve met several times said he wanted to hear about other people too, so I casually told him about this handsome older papa I’m seriously in love with.
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Since we usually talk openly and casually about all kinds of things, including raunchy jokes and past relationships, I brought it up like I was asking for relationship advice, but his expression turned rather grim, which was a little scary.
We made plans to meet again as usual before I left, so it seems like he’s still willing to see me, but he left my usual thank-you LINE message on read, even though he normally replies.
I had assumed he was the kind of papa I could talk to openly about things like that, but are papas like him actually rare?
Also, should I apologize for oversharing when I see him next?
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Even though the man himself asked you to say it…
Are you still fairly young? Even if you’re seeing several men, always tell the man in front of you that he’s number one—even if he’s a rather detached papa (a male supporter).
People at the top got there by winning competitions. I think many people want to come out on top in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), too.
He looked displeased, didn’t he? Even though you made plans to meet again, there’s a chance he may cancel midway. Be a little prepared for that.
At least it was a good learning experience. Just be careful not to say things like that to a papa you’re close with.
Also, I don’t think you should apologize—it’ll only make him angrier. Take that secret to your grave.
It’s a good thing the man’s jealousy didn’t turn into an incident.
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The man who asked while pretending to be unfazed was probably hoping to hear, “There’s no one like that—my papa is the best…”
By now, he’s likely feeling jealous and struggling to accept how small-minded he’s been.
That said, you were far too inconsiderate and lacking in sensitivity. Please learn from this going forward.
—Akari
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Some papas aim to be a woman’s number one, while others don’t care about that at all—but the latter are pretty rare.
Even if they aren’t actively trying to be number one, they still have a certain amount of pride. So if you can tell him something like, “You’re not my number-one papa, but I’m really satisfied with you in this particular way,” it might make him feel good.
For example: “I’m into handsome, genuinely-in-love older men, but I’m most compatible with you when it comes to intimacy.”
Maybe that man had started wondering why this woman was meeting him in the first place.
There’s a big difference between a woman wanting to see him for reasons beyond the allowance and her only seeing him because she wants the allowance.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Ah, I’ve done something similar before, too（笑).
Apparently, she thought that since we’d known each other for a long time, we could speak openly, so she let a few things slip. I was curious as well, so I asked more questions, and a story similar to the one in your question came out. It left me feeling pretty down and heavy. You really shouldn’t open Pandora’s box.
You could just brush it off and pretend it never happened, but the fact that he heard it won’t disappear. It’ll feel like something unpleasant—or an infection—festering deep underground. On the other hand, having her seriously apologize doesn’t quite feel right either.
You could say something like, “Sorry if what I said the other day bothered you. I’ve had various experiences in the past, but these days, you’re the person I like the most.” That wouldn’t be a lie, would it? You could even add, “I told you because I like you and thought I could talk to you about anything. I normally wouldn’t tell anyone that.”
Basically, she’s just lost a bit of confidence and wants to hear that she’s the one you like most. She’s being a little needy. Put another way, if you handle this well, you can really have him wrapped around your finger. Think of it as a chance to train your pet and give it your best shot.
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You’re bound to notice the other wrestlers on the same playing field, just like you’d notice other files in the same folder.
When that happens, don’t talk about the handsome older papa and the other papa as if they’re in the same folder—put them in separate folders. In other words, I like the handsome older papa, but he isn’t someone I can talk to about everything. That’s why the papa I can tell anything to is precious and important to me. They’re saved in separate folders.
It’s not too late to start. Try separating your folders like this.
Even if someone isn’t your number one, employees won’t quit as long as you give each of them a role.
And in this case, I don’t think it’s about whether it’s rare or anything like that. It’s simply about valuing the person right in front of you—the bare minimum of consideration and manners expected of a human being.
I have zero pride and can create my own folder, so it doesn’t bother me. But it’s probably safest to assume that people like that are rare.
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Lol.
When papa asked, he was stunned to find out there was another papa who was even more generous than him.
Like, “Oh no…”
It really was better not to ask. I can imagine the look on his face.
Apologizing would probably only make things worse, so just act as usual and pretend nothing happened.
Hopefully, by the next time you see him, papa will have recovered and things won’t be awkward...
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That’s a good question (lol).
Let’s snuggle up a little next time we meet!
I’m sure that’ll put him in a good mood again.
Even a papa (a male supporter) is still a man.
He’s probably thinking, “Can’t you show me a little affection, too?”
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That sounds like it would be difficult to repair.
Well, the man is in the wrong for asking, but it’s not something you should eagerly answer with complete honesty. It’s probably best to act as though you have other papas because you need the money, but he’s still your favorite.
Marika
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It probably wasn’t a good idea to bring up the papa you’ve genuinely fallen for.
It would’ve been better if you could have conveyed something along the lines of, “I like you more.” If you can smooth things over that way, I think you should.
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The next time you see him, put on a serious face and casually lie, saying:
“Something happened that I didn’t like, so I was the one who ended things.”
Wouldn’t that help you make up?
Papas are creatures who tell countless lies, so it’s totally fine for you to lie too.
> I casually talked about the handsome older papa I’m seriously in love with.
Oops, I almost overlooked that wonderful line. We have another girl here who’s genuinely fallen for her papa♡
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They were probably hurt because they weren’t your number one.
Apologizing would only rub salt in the wound, so I think it’s best to act as if nothing happened.
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Even though they were the one who said they wanted to hear it, perhaps they were still hoping you’d say, “You’re number one to me!”
Apologizing might only make them feel even more miserable, so if it were me, I’d act as though nothing had happened. I think it would be better to simply enjoy your time together even more.
Even if they ask, unless you’re particularly close, it might be best not to go into too much detail.
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I don’t think you need to apologize. The man is at fault for not realizing that if hearing about someone else bothers him, he shouldn’t have asked in the first place.
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