Sorry to be so forward, but may I ask a question?

As a columnist and male member, Joe would like to offer his personal opinion, if I may. First, let me say that this may not be the answer you were hoping for. Assuming the questioner is a male member and that, as you say, the two of you are mutually in love, my personal opinion is: “Do whatever you want, within your means.” It may sound rather blunt, but that’s how I feel. That said, I’m skeptical of the premise. In relationships formed through dating clubs, there’s generally a significant gap in feelings between the two parties, so isn’t it quite likely that the woman won’t show the gratitude or reaction the man is hoping for? At least, that was the case for Joe. So when Joe gives money separately from the allowance, he basically doesn’t expect anything in return. I’ve learned that unless you’re prepared to be okay with being deceived, you’ll only end up regretting it. Here are some examples of money Joe has paid in addition to the allowance: 1. Startup capital: ¥5 million (nervous laugh) 2. Down payment on a condo: ¥3 million (wry laugh) 3. Travel expenses for a trip with her boyfriend: ¥500,000 (uproarious laughter) That’s all. Except for No. 2, those relationships have ended. Part of me wants to shout, “I was deceived! Give me my money back!” But writing this in the Q&A box has already made me feel better. Especially No. 3—I keep remembering that breathtaking night after she came back from the trip, and it gets me excited all by myself. (What a fool?)