During intimacy, I was asked, “Are you okay?” while we were still doing foreplay. When I nodded, he immediately entered me without protection. He seemed like such a gentleman and was so gentle, so I never thought he would… I was really disappointed to realize he was actually a jerk.

> Even if you report someone, is it possible that the club won’t warn a regular client? There are several factors involved. Basically, we have to hear both sides of the story first. If we only listen to the woman’s account, it inevitably creates a bias—and there’s also a chance she may be lying. That’s why we can’t issue a warning without hearing the man’s side as well. So we start by asking something like, “We received this complaint from a woman. Could you tell us what happened from your perspective?” Naturally, the man may say things like, “Huh? No, that wasn’t my intention. I thought she had agreed to it.” Or, “If she’d told me right away that she didn’t like it, I would have used protection.” Once it turns into that kind of back-and-forth, it becomes difficult to warn him. However, if we receive similar complaints from other women as well—and there are at least three of them—we can conclude that the man is probably lying. The problem is that we need reports from at least three women, and some women simply put up with it without saying anything, so it was a difficult situation. That’s why we introduced a rating system. Once a member accumulates enough negative ratings from women, we can warn him without further debate. If more negative ratings are added, we can also force him to leave the club. A single woman’s rating isn’t enough to reach the threshold for a warning. But if multiple women give him negative ratings, the logic is that he really is a problematic man. So even if he says, “That wasn’t my intention,” after we hear his side, that excuse no longer works as easily. I think this has shortened the time it takes to issue a warning compared with before. If you had an unpleasant experience, please be sure to submit a rating.

Universe’s job is to introduce men and women to each other. What happens after that is your own responsibility. If someone asks, “Are you okay with that?” and you nod, they’ll naturally take it as a yes. It’s best to tell everyone from the very beginning, “Please use a condom.”

That’s absolutely awful... I leave condoms somewhere fairly noticeable, though not too conspicuous. Same with the lube. The two things women worry about most are whether they’ll actually receive their allowance and whether the guy will use a condom, right? So in my case, I either give them the allowance or transfer it before we enter the room. If that isn’t possible, I hand it over the second we get inside. As for the condoms, I leave a few slightly visible on the small table beside the bed. I consider these two things to be the absolute basics of etiquette at a dating club. According to reports from my monthly partners, the men who want to go without protection are usually doctors. One girl even told me she caught a full-course lineup of STIs—with dessert—from a doctor who insisted on going without protection. That said, some girls want to do it without protection too. I just can’t bring myself to refuse...

Women aren’t warned when a man complains that they have bad table manners or look at their phone too much, are they? Regardless of whether he’s a valued client, I don’t think they’d say anything as long as it wasn’t against the rules. That’s what feedback is for, isn’t it? Not just in dating clubs—you have to take responsibility for yourself.

When you said “Are you okay?” and “Doesn’t it hurt?”, I thought you meant that kind of concern—but you meant the other thing… What an utterly hopeless man. That said, I don’t think you can say much either if you accepted it just because the allowance was high. He probably thinks, “So if I pay enough, it’s okay to go without protection.” In the end, won’t men start thinking they can do anything as long as they pay? I’m not the type to speak up strongly myself, so if I were in that situation, I might not be able to say anything either. That means I’m really not in a position to criticize you, but I think I’ve simply been lucky enough to be introduced to some wonderful men. I want to become better at clearly saying no when something makes me uncomfortable. And to the men: instead of considering women who can’t speak up to be “lucky finds,” I think both sides could enjoy the relationship more if you simply made a point of considering the woman’s feelings as a matter of course. From the club’s perspective, anything beyond the initial setup is a private relationship, so I don’t think they can intervene too strongly. I believe we ultimately have to protect ourselves.