How much jealousy from a woman can you tolerate?

In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it may be best not to get too jealous. After all, for these men, it’s just a game—even when they say they’re serious. Keep a clear boundary.

I’ve never been asked about the other women I see. I think they’re probably afraid to ask. What I’m occasionally asked about is my relationship with my wife. Women can get jealous even when there are no romantic feelings involved, so I don’t really think anything of it.

I’m happy when he gets jealous. But the moment he actually says those feelings out loud, I also start thinking, “This is a hassle.” I’d say it’s about 70% flattering and 30% annoying. As that annoyance builds up, the 30% could become 50%, then 70%, and eventually lead to breaking things off. Maybe you could tell him how you feel once and listen to his perspective, then agree not to bring it up again after that.

Even if he seems genuinely emotionally invested, you should assume that any man registered with a dating club is seeing other women as well. Even if you persuade him to leave Universe and he actually does, it won’t make much difference—there are plenty of other dating clubs out there. So if saying you don’t want him seeing other girls is just part of the role-play, that’s fine. But you shouldn’t try to find out whether he really is seeing other women, and you shouldn’t get angry if you discover that he is.

If you’re both genuinely in love and have a monthly arrangement, I think he’d always come back even if he impulsively made an offer to another woman. But I wouldn’t like it either… For now, how about testing the waters by saying something cute like, “I’d be sad if you met other girls♡”? And every now and then, casually hint at things like, “I can always tell when I’m being cheated on,” or “I’d break up with you if you cheated.” It’s important to come across as someone who would be hurt and want to end things if he cheated. That way, because he won’t want to lose you, your papa (a male supporter) will either avoid cheating—or, if he does, make sure to hide it very carefully. Either way, if you say it too seriously, there’s a higher chance he’ll be put off, so I think it’s best to be cute and honest about it.

>Both of you are genuinely in love. Thank you for the wonderful post. We often see questions—or more accurately, insults—like, “As if I’d ever fall for some old geezer, baldy.” But there really are women who genuinely fall for their papas, just like this questioner. There, now you know. As for my answer: jealousy is really flattering when it’s mild. When it gets intense, though, it can even become the reason for a breakup. By “mild,” I mean something like this recent example. I became close with an extremely popular girl and started seeing her, but perhaps because she was confident due to her popularity, she openly told me on our first date that she had other papas. Basically, I think she was saying, “If you want to keep me around, you’ll have to give me a lot of money.” However, my offer must have been quite generous—well over 100,000 yen—because she just stared at me in surprise. And maybe because I simply smiled and said, “I see. Then I’ll support you together with that papa, too♪,” without budging, she started asking me, “Aren’t you jealous?” at every opportunity after that. This is a variation of jealousy that falls into the “mild” category, so I find it cute. If the questioner’s jealousy—or possessiveness—is this kind of cute and mild, I think it’s perfectly fine. Saying something like, “Don’t get involved with any other girls,” is cute too. Incidentally, I sometimes recommend my favorite girls to The Salon. Rather than being possessive, I more often do the opposite. Being possessive tends to backfire, and as long as the girl is happy, I’m fine with it. In fact, I’m even looking for a marriage partner for my ace. If I were the questioner, I’d say, “It’s okay for you to see other girls. You’re a popular guy, after all♪” Saying that actually makes it more likely that you can keep him all to yourself.