I have an eating disorder too. I’ve been bingeing and purging for about three years now. I suspect that most people whose body shape doesn’t match the amount they eat have an eating disorder. Looking through this Q&A box, I often see people saying, “Go to the hospital.” In my case, I did receive treatment at a hospital for a while, but it had no effect and actually made things worse, so I stopped going. Going to the hospital doesn’t necessarily cure you, and I’m not asking for help, so those kinds of answers are unnecessary.
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Many people involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), as well as others who work in the nightlife industry, seem to have eating disorders.
I do papa-katsu because I need money for food. Which is more common among people with eating disorders: starting papa-katsu to cover their food expenses, or starting papa-katsu because they’re expected to stay thin in nightlife jobs or papa-katsu?
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You should go to a hospital. I say that because, rather than having people who know nothing about eating disorders say this or that, it’s more reliable to ask a professional or a doctor who specializes in them. It’s not that I’m being cold.
If we only end up putting you under more pressure, we can’t really help someone we don’t know personally and who isn’t even nearby.
Maybe having a papa (a male supporter) you can talk to, like the person who asked the previous question, would be a relief.
I don’t know which is more common, though.
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Women seem to suffer from eating disorders so often. That’s the downside of treating dieting as the ultimate goal. A little curvy is cuter, anyway—and that’s true worldwide.
I’ve never heard of men having eating disorders.
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I do everything I can for the women I’m seeing.
Of course, they consult me about health concerns, and sometimes even about conditions they’ve never told their own families about.
I think it’s because I always try to be someone they feel they can talk to about anything. But from an outsider’s perspective, it probably just looks like I’m meddling.
That said, I really was completely ignorant about eating disorders. There isn’t much I can do for my monthly-arrangement partner, but I have an extensive network in the medical field, so I’m going to look for a great specialist in case she ever needs one.
I’ll continue striving to be a papa (a male supporter) who can be there for the women he sees and listen to their troubles.
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I also had an eating disorder when I was in college. I even worked in the nightlife industry to earn money for it. I wasn’t the type who purged, so I was overweight for a while…
I get the feeling that more women start working in nightlife after developing an eating disorder, but that’s just my personal impression, so I’m not really sure.
That said, I’m doing much better now, and I’m far less fixated on food. I went through a lot, but I think being able to earn money while finding some emotional comfort through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) made a big difference. I suppose you could say I simply shifted my dependence from food to money, but…
So I think that, if you’re lucky, the day may come when you reach remission too. Until then, please keep hanging in there.
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I’m only telling you to see a doctor because it’s difficult for a layperson to deal with a topic like an eating disorder.
As for your last question, I’m sure there are people in both categories—but what are you hoping to learn by asking?
Wasn’t being in good physical and mental health one of the few requirements for Universe members?
Marika
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