Is there any way to get someone who hates hospitals to go to one?
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I don’t want to meet him in person—email or phone is fine.
The man I’m seeing says he’s feeling unwell and might die, and he calls me every day.
I keep telling him, “If you have time to call me, go to the hospital already,” but he still hasn’t gone at all.
Instead, he’s even started asking me to come take care of him.
I told him I might consider visiting him once he gets a medical certificate from the hospital, but he doesn’t want to do that either.
From what I can tell over the phone, his voice does sound like he’s genuinely unwell, and he’s getting older, so I do believe he’s actually not feeling well.
He’s already given me six months’ worth of allowance, so if the time we can’t meet gets longer, he’s the one who loses out. I don’t think he’d make something like that up.
However, given the season, there’s also a possibility that he has COVID, the flu, or some other infectious illness. As things stand, I don’t want to go see him, let alone take care of him.
This situation is just annoying, but it’s not like I want him to die. I’m asking because I do want him to go to the hospital.
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How about saying it a little angrily, like:
“I’m not seeing you unless you go to the hospital!!
I’m worried about you, you know!? If you died like this, I’d never forgive myself (;_;)
Something like that. A person who’s always seeking attention probably won’t get it unless you’re firm with them.”
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Isn’t he just faking being sick?
If he’s able to make a phone call, he’s not dying. Tell him to give you his address, that you’ll call an ambulance, and to get his health insurance card ready while he waits.
He’ll probably go quiet.
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There may have been situations, especially at the beginning of the pandemic, where once someone was admitted to the hospital, they couldn’t see anyone anymore.
So perhaps that possibility scares him a little, and he may be worried that he could end up being unable to leave the hospital.
There’s also occasional talk about hospitals having more antibiotic-resistant bacteria, so I can understand why some people might not want to go.
And since you’re worried about catching some kind of virus from the man you’re seeing, I think it would be reasonable to first explain that and ask him to find out whether the cause of his illness is contagious.
Then, if everything is fine—after he’s been to the hospital—you could tell him you’ll go take care of him.
That said, taking care of him…
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At a time like this, even hospital patients can’t have visitors, so going to visit someone when you don’t even know what illness they have is far too risky.
I think it’s perfectly fine to stick to your current stance: “I can’t meet you unless you go to the hospital and get a diagnosis.”
I wonder why they won’t go to the hospital. If they went sooner, you could both have peace of mind…
Keep telling them, “I’d be worried if anything happened to you, so please go to the hospital before we meet!”
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This attention-seeking old man is so gross.
He sends me about 1,000 yen through LINE Pay and says he’ll keep worrying unless I get a medical certificate. What a hassle.
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Since you’ve received six months’ worth of allowance, you should at least continue keeping him company over the phone for now.
If he really wants you to come take care of him, tell him that it could be dangerous if he has an infectious disease, so he should go to the hospital and find out what he has.
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