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Jan 29, 2022 19:32
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Other
I think it would be best to ask your aunt to arrange a formal matchmaking meeting for you.
A studio portrait mounted on stiff paper with a sheet of tissue over it would make such an elegant young lady look even more refined.
At a formal matchmaking meeting, your appearance, family background, education, and occupation will all be scrutinized, so do your best.
Marika
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Please define clearly what you mean by a “refined, wholesome woman.”
By my standards, most women would qualify. (笑)
But I have no idea whether my standards are the same as yours. Before asking whether a certain type of woman is considered refined, I think you should start by explaining exactly what you mean by that.
For instance, if she’s refined, would you be okay with her weighing over 100 kilos?
Even if you say you want someone refined, don’t you have other requirements as well?
Ultimately, everyone has different tastes, so asking, “Are there women like this?” is pretty pointless.
If you press the membership application button, someone will contact you. Tell them when you’re available and meet with a staff member first. That way, you can find out whether they have women who match your preferences.
If you feel they don’t, you simply don’t have to join. Meeting with the staff doesn’t mean you’re obligated to sign up.
That said, most people do end up joining, probably because they find there are more wonderful women than they expected.
However, it costs considerably more than using an app, and in many cases, you won’t be able to continue unless you offer a higher allowance than you would through an app. You should think carefully about whether you’re comfortable with that.
Also, if you’re seriously considering marriage, women may complain that, “This man has joined for the wrong reasons,” so be careful.
Some couples have gotten married, so it can ultimately lead to marriage. But if you bring up marriage from the very beginning, you’ll likely be labeled as a man who has misunderstood what the service is for, and you may receive a poor rating.
Other
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
I think it’s better than using an app, but once you’re in a dating club, you can’t exactly call yourself demure and respectable.
That said, I’m sure there are women who give off that impression.
The ones who look the most demure probably have the darkest sides.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Um, once you’ve joined a club, “demure” really doesn’t apply to either men or women, does it…
Paper Airplane
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I think there are plenty of classy, well-mannered women.
I’ve met about three women I could even imagine marrying. I won’t get married, though, because I’d end up cheating.
Anyway, why not join and meet people for yourself? If you’re too stingy to pay the membership fee, you won’t meet anyone.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I think you’ll find more refined women there than on dating apps.
Some women join dating clubs because they feel too uneasy meeting someone through an app.
I once met a young woman who had signed up after her parents’ company ran into financial trouble during the pandemic, so she could pay for both her and her younger sister’s tuition.
That said, women like her are definitely rare, so if you join, take your time and carefully look through the women who register each day.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
There are no truly refined women at dating clubs.
That said, some women do return to being refined once they leave.
And if she leaves, that means she’ll break up with you.
So, in the end, you still won’t find one here.
Other
I’m sure there are women with a refined, innocent vibe.
If by “refined” you mean someone’s overall demeanor, you’ll probably find quite a few. But if you’re looking for a sheltered, totally inexperienced type who doesn’t really know men, there probably aren’t many in an exclusive dating club.
If you’re open to marriage, wouldn’t a matchmaking agency be a better option? If you really want to look through an exclusive dating club, why not meet plenty of women and see how it goes?
I hope you find someone you really like!
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Men from your generation, like the person asking this question, sometimes propose marriage-minded relationships to my monthly partner, who looks extremely wholesome—and get turned down spectacularly…
He was a really kind papa (a male supporter), and his allowance wasn’t bad, so he apparently didn’t want to break things off. But my monthly partner was living with her boyfriend, so she had no choice but to turn down his serious relationship offer. Once she did, that papa left.
By the way, Universe also has women who are looking for a marriage partner. You’ll occasionally see that mentioned in their profiles. However, you won’t find them in Black.
Incidentally, do you have a decent amount of money, sir? Unlike a marriage agency, this is a place where women who need money right away gather. So no matter how young and handsome you are, if your allowance is low, there’s a good chance things won’t even develop into an adult relationship (intimate).
In other words, Carlos Ghosn—pay-per-meeting of 50,000 yen or less—isn’t welcome here.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
What exactly qualifies as “ladylike”?
By my definition, a woman who wants a relationship involving an allowance isn’t ladylike.