I've met dozens of people, and it made me wonder how the confident and less confident ones were raised.
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I'm asking because I don't feel very confident about raising children myself.
I feel that self-esteem also correlates with education and smiling. As a result, they come across as more appealing.
When I see someone with low self-esteem, I find myself thinking various things, like how I wouldn't want my child to grow up so prone to emotional struggles.
For those of you who have sons or daughters around the same age as your PJs:
What aspects of your parenting have made you think, “That was the right way to raise them”?
Anything is welcome. Thank you.
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Some children are naturally inclined to see themselves negatively and pessimistically, while others tend to view themselves positively and optimistically.
It’s about half temperament and half environment.
If you praise them too much and indulge them excessively, they may end up becoming children consumed by self-love.
Ultimately, parents should maintain a healthy sense of self-worth and a stable mental state, and avoid looking down on or rejecting their children more than necessary.
The main thing to avoid is treating your child as an appendage or an extension of yourself. No matter how young they are, they’re a separate person.
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My father was the real-life embodiment of Ittetsu Hoshi—a drill-sergeant from hell who’d throw a punch in an instant if we showed even the slightest sign of weakness.
I’m the only one among my siblings who survived and went on to become a papa (a male supporter) like this. The others were thoroughly broken and now live in the shadows.
Considering that we were all hit equally, I guess children really do grow up on their own. Maybe I only survived by chance.
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When it comes to raising them, I’d say up until around elementary school age.
Even by then, they already have their own personality and character, so I don’t think parents should assume they can control them.
Girls seem to mature emotionally faster. From that age on, I feel like a parent’s role is more about creating options for them and supporting them. Of course, I have ideals and hopes for how I’d like them to live, but apparently even just seeing their parents’ example can feel like quite a lot of pressure, lol.
Once they’re able to take initiative, all you can really do is watch over them. You may want to jump in because they seem like they’re about to make a mistake, or because you think, “They should do it this way,” but you have to hold back, lol.
I try to make sure that both the failures and successes they achieve on their own become their own assets. I do worry, though, lol.
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Wanting your child to grow up a certain way is just parental ego. How a child turns out should be up to them.
I think a parent’s role is simply to teach the basic manners they need to get through life and support what their child wants to do.
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I don’t have children around the same age as the PJ, but I think what matters is that you care so deeply about your children.
In my opinion, it would be wonderful if they grew up feeling loved.
You must be a wonderful father!
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There seem to be many parents who let their children quit lessons as soon as they show even the slightest reluctance. It’s not only because they feel sorry for their children—they apparently find it a hassle to deal with their whining and coax them into calming down…
I don’t think there’s any place for “a hassle” when it comes to raising children. When parents become lax about parenting because it’s too much trouble, their children grow up careless too. That’s the parents’ responsibility.
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