People here keep saying the women are unpleasant or jaded, but isn’t that all because men treat them like sex workers, reducing them to a way to satisfy their sexual desires?
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If papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is understood as sharing and experiencing the irreplaceable joy of loving and being loved with women who have lost faith in men and have no desire to marry, and continuing until the two of you part ways, couldn’t you treat the girls a little more kindly?
Universe isn’t a personal-business-style sex service with meals and no time limit.
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I thought this was another hysterical post by a young woman, but it’s actually from a man in his 50s?
If he sees it as just a way to satisfy his sexual desires, then he wouldn’t bad-mouth her simply for that. I think he does it because he feels she has a nasty personality.
But the part about women who are disappointed in men and have no desire to get married makes no sense to me.
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It’s not really about what you think. Women aren’t looking for your opinions anyway.
What they want is to be treated kindly and made to feel valued.
That’s why you should be gentle with women.
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Of course we should treat our partners with respect, and I have no issue with that.
However, I completely disagree with the claim that “papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) means sharing and experiencing the irreplaceable joy of loving and being loved with a woman who has been disappointed by men and has no desire to marry, until you eventually part ways.” If anything, it reeks of a pushy man who’s a person to avoid.
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As long as both people show basic manners, respect, and consideration, I don’t think things will turn into a session of bashing each other, no matter where they met.
That’s always what I think as I answer these questions.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
Even if a woman is attractive and has a pretty face, if she has a bad personality—or seems jaded—I don’t date her, you know?
If I treated women like tools for sexual release, the good women who are popular with other papas would cut me off. So I couldn’t do that, haha.
I treat them with care and respect.
And even if you try to impose your own definition of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) on me, not everyone is like that.
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That’s a good question. I approach these relationships in much the same way.
From my experience, it feels like quite a few men and women get involved with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as if it were just another form of adult entertainment or casual fun. The woman I’m currently seeing is also quite a bit younger than me, so I think she probably felt that way at first, too.
However, as our relationship has continued, I’ve felt that the way she sees and treats me has gradually changed.
Also, in my case, I always continue the relationship while keeping in mind how a serious relationship might eventually come to an end.
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It sounds like what you really want is to be loved by someone, doesn’t it?
I think the reason so many women become emotionally jaded is that they’re doing this for the money. That’s why, even when they seem to be having fun, a certain coldness sometimes shows through.
And because they’re intimate with men against their will, they end up becoming depressed. An eating disorder may be one possible result as well.
I think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) should be your second priority, and that you could make a living with a regular job eight days a month… Though I’m sure some people will say I’m speaking without really knowing your situation.
I hope someone who will truly love you makes you an offer.
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I completely agree.
Unless you’re Carlos Ghosn (allowance of 50,000 yen or less), I hope you’ll become an answerer.
For my monthly arrangements, the allowance for an adult relationship has become almost the same as for dinner.
I also help them find a marriage partner and support them in becoming independent through business. I take pride in having an exceptional talent for making money, so teaching women how to earn an income is something I genuinely enjoy.
I’m incredibly grateful that young women choose to spend time with us, but while I appreciate them, I also believe that helping them graduate from papa-katsu is one of a papa’s responsibilities.
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To the papas reading this:
Kindness toward women means “the amount of the allowance.” If you surveyed women, they’d all agree (with a few exceptions).
No matter how much you twist logic to justify yourself, if your allowance is Carlos Ghosn-level, you have zero credibility.
Being kind to women in the way you speak to them, your attitude, and your personal hygiene is the bare minimum any man should have. So when you act smug about it, people are left thinking, “Well, duh?”
In the context of papa-katsu, kindness means “the allowance.” Respect for women also means “the allowance.”
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I understand what you mean, but I’m not interested in actively making offers to women who are jaded or world-weary.
I just want to enjoy some adult fun with women who aren’t jaded.
Since the male respondents here are all decent men with no complaints against them, I’m sure they treat women kindly.
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