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Jan 27, 2022 22:51
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🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fuu, a columnist.
I think being naked all the time can actually have the opposite effect on men.
I believe abstaining from sex and masturbation is more effective for both of you.
Try to avoid revealing clothing as much as possible, and have your partner stop masturbating too.
Take a break for a while, then when the time comes, try adding some excitement—choose a place, outfit, or something to do that you normally wouldn’t.
🏅 手コキ評論家
入会して8年。いまだ彷徨中です
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
Well, for now, we’re practically living together for a limited time.
I say “practically” because twice a month, Shi-chan’s boyfriend—who’s away on a solo assignment—comes home, and Joe goes back to his main home for about five days each month.
Usually, Shi-chan is the one who tries to make a move, but I often can’t live up to her expectations. However, on Sunday nights after her boyfriend has gone home, it’s Joe’s turn to make a move. What I’m getting at is that using someone else’s “help” can be one way to break out of a rut. Give it a try!
Her boyfriend’s assignment away from home will be ending soon, so this little game of house will be over.
Other
Are you under the impression that showing your body will automatically turn a man on? Do you think men get aroused simply because you’re young?
Your relationship is sexless, so why are you moving in together? If the end is already so near, why do it? Are you planning to live together as his housekeeper?
I wouldn’t recommend it.
Accept a new offer instead.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Being comfortable with nudity can make a sexless relationship happen sooner.
That’s because the embarrassment fades, and you start to feel more like an ordinary family than romantic partners.
To avoid that, how about creating a sense of occasion?
For example, you could go to a love hotel on a day you both choose, such as a weekend. It might help you feel like romantic partners again, at least while you’re there.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
One of my monthly arrangement partners lives with her boyfriend.
She says they’re really lovey-dovey. She told me they always sleep pressed up against each other.
Hearing her talk about that while we’re intimate turns me on. She clings tightly to me too, so I get to enjoy the feeling of having an affair.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
“Being sexless is a huge problem.”
That’s what you think, right?
The idea that “being sexless is a major problem” has become widely accepted as common sense.
But phrases like “sexlessness causes divorce” and the image they create have led to a mistaken understanding. Before a divorce, no married couple is having sex anyway, lol. That’s only natural.
Let’s try changing the way we look at it. Sex is an extension of physical affection.
In other words, it’s the complete lack of physical intimacy that can lead to divorce. The real major problem between a man and a woman is having no physical contact at all. The lack of sex itself isn’t the direct cause.
So even just being affectionate can help. I realized that recently. Simply hugging your wife, fondling her breasts, or touching her butt while being playful can have a similar psychological effect to sex.
That’s why you see happily married elderly couples who are sexless but still walking hand in hand.
On the other hand, when you’re seeing someone through a dating club, you may have sex, but you don’t usually get that affectionate, do you?
That’s the point.
What do you think?
If I talked about this on YouTube, I bet it could get quite a few views, lol.
Other
Living together while already becoming pretty much sexless is quite something…
You two sound like a married couple going through a rough patch.
Go have a threesome or something.