There’s a girl who constantly checks herself in the mirror on her phone whenever she gets the chance. I don’t say anything, even though I wonder if she’s really that concerned about her appearance, but I do wish she’d focus on me.

Rather than having poor manners, I think she’s just emotionally on a high-school girl’s level. If you don’t like it, you can simply stop seeing her.

Maybe it’s because your dates are boring for her. Why not offer to meet someone closer to your own age?

Maybe she’s had some cosmetic work done somewhere? Marika

They probably just find being with you boring. If you keep blaming other people, you’ll keep repeating the same kind of thing over and over. Paper Airplane I’m trying to tell you that the problem lies with you.

I’m Rin, a female member of SALON. That’s unbelievable. Whether I’m meeting someone through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or just a friend, I can’t imagine constantly checking my phone or looking in the mirror while I’m with them. The only explanation I can think of is that they must be having an incredibly boring time... I wouldn’t necessarily say they were poorly brought up, but it does make me think they’re not considerate of other people. I think you should offer to meet someone else. That might also make them think about what they did wrong. Still, why not mention it to them at least once and give them a chance to change?

I’m Dai, a male member. Maybe she’s acting that way because she finds her dates with you boring. And even if she’s the kind of woman who always does that, you should blame yourself for making her an offer without seeing through it. You can tell her how you feel, but if she has any complaints about her dates with you, it could lead to ending things.

That’s what happens when your allowance is 50,000 yen or less per meeting. Try raising it to 100,000 yen per meeting. She’ll stop looking anywhere else. At 150,000 yen per meeting, she won’t even blink—even if you’re an absolutely hopelessly boring man. That’s just how it works. **Edit:** Everything has an “essence.” In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), that essence is the allowance. Things like looking presentable and having good date skills matter too—they do—but the essence is still the allowance. We papas are the same, aren’t we? Even if a woman had the personality of a goddess, and even if you supposedly had the best physical chemistry imaginable, you wouldn’t date her if she wasn’t your type looks-wise, would you? There are probably some women who prioritize things other than the allowance, but they’re the exception. The essence is still the allowance. To use ramen as an analogy: even if you could make the best noodles in the world, or the most delicious chashu in the universe, or the restaurant manager were the most beautiful woman alive, nobody would eat there if all you could make was terrible broth. I’m a short, fat, bald papa. In ramen terms, I’m the kind of papa whose noodles taste bad, whose chashu is mediocre, and whose menma is store-bought. But because my broth is insanely delicious—that is, because my allowance is exceptionally high—I’ve somehow managed to make a bowl of ramen that people will just barely eat. “Managed to”? Hmm? Questioner and fellow papas, please don’t run from the allowance—the essence of the arrangement. **Edit 2:** Since this is already long, let me add one more thing just to be annoying. Last year, a hugely popular woman who was considered a future ace joined my monthly arrangement. In other words, she was the kind of woman who received offers nonstop. Her profile specifically included a staff comment along the lines of: “This lady is extremely slow to respond.” *Staff, you know which woman I mean, right? lol* But in reality, that wasn’t the case at all. She always replied right away, and her messages were polite, too—even though we were communicating by email, which she probably wasn’t used to. Needless to say, the reason this formerly slow-to-reply papa-katsu girl became a rapid responder was simply that the allowance I offered was well above 100,000 yen per meeting.

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one too. You still have a lot to learn. Some women are extremely particular about their bangs. Even if their bangs are slightly out of place, they just can’t stand it. That’s why they check them. Please understand that there are women like that, and try to be more tolerant. That said, if it bothers you, you’d be better off looking for someone who isn’t like that. If both of you are bothered by each other’s quirks, there’s not much you can do. But when it comes down to it, a woman caring about her hair and you caring about that are really two sides of the same coin. Once you understand that, I think it’s best to look for someone who matches your preferences.

They’re simply that kind of person. There’s no need for someone who just showed up out of nowhere to go as far as saying they have poor manners or a bad upbringing. Even if that’s what you think, just keep quiet and offer to meet someone else instead lol.

I’m Kazu, a male member. If it were me, I’d make an offer to another woman. There’s probably no point in telling her directly. That said, I’d probably leave feedback.