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On the first date, we agreed on 1 for a dinner date.
However, on subsequent dates, I gave her 2 for various reasons (for example, because she had taken a taxi to the meeting place).
If I’ve given her more than the amount we originally agreed on several times, would suddenly giving her the original agreed-upon amount leave her disappointed or give her a negative impression from a woman’s perspective?
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There was someone who gave me 2 even on days when we only had dinner or tea.
When I got home, I was surprised and contacted him about it. He was actually happy that I’d noticed, and because he genuinely enjoyed our time together, the amount kept increasing.
I was surprised and felt a little embarrassed, but I suppose if the allowance had suddenly decreased without any explanation, I might have wondered, “Huh? Did I do something wrong?”
I might even have started to feel that he’d found another woman he was willing to give that much to.
Ultimately, I think my feelings for him would have faded.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
People get used to whatever they’re exposed to. So if you regularly give her 2, she’ll probably start feeling that 1 is too little.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Up until now, you’ve probably been thinking of him as a good papa who always gives you ¥20,000. So even if ¥10,000 is technically the standard amount, you’d probably feel a little disappointed if he reduced it to that.
That said, if he explained each time that he was giving you an extra ¥10,000 to cover the taxi fare because you came by taxi, then saying something like, “This is a regular date, so the allowance is ¥10,000,” would probably make sense.
I don’t know the details of your previous arrangements, but if that’s the case, she may start taking a taxi every time to get the extra money.
Ultimately, it probably depends on how close you and the woman have become.
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I’m Rin, a female member of SALON.
Maybe you’re just too kind… or perhaps the woman you’re seeing is especially good at getting more out of you…
I think it depends on how genuinely grateful she feels. Since she agreed to meet you after accepting the amount of 1 that you initially set, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with giving her 1.
That said, if you give her more several times, she may start to take it for granted and feel disappointed that it isn’t 2.
If she sees the extra amount she received before as an unexpected bonus and appreciates it, then there shouldn’t be a problem. But if not, she may mistakenly think you’ve reduced her allowance.
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The “1” issue will never be resolved, will it?
From a woman’s perspective, it’s like, “Don’t be so stingy over just 1,” while for papas, that 1 is something they cling to desperately—almost pathetically. . .
I’ve said about a hundred million times that Universe’s going rate for an adult relationship (intimate) should be 6, not 5, but not a single papa is willing to raise it by even that tiny 1.
To the person who asked this question: hang in there. Why not accept 2? Once you’ve received 2 even just once, women naturally feel like they’ve been “cut by 1” when it drops back down.
There’s no way that wouldn’t feel awful, so I really hope you can stand your ground.
The papas reading this question will snicker and say, “Why not give her 2?” But their own allowance stays at 5. They won’t make it 6.
What the heck is that supposed to mean?!
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