I got tired of adult entertainment venues with restrictions on activities and time, so I joined a dating club mainly seeking adult relationships and no time limits. Would the male members here still use a dating club if adult relationships and unlimited time weren’t available?

Maezawa from the president’s office here, answering as well. > I joined a dating club mainly looking for adult relationships and no time limit. Huh? I think you may have misunderstood something. In the adult entertainment industry, you can extend your time, right? Or is that not an option? Couldn’t you just use that service for eight hours from the start? With eight hours, it seems like it would be practically the same as having no time limit. With a dating club, on the other hand, you’re the only one assuming there’s no time limit. If you make a woman go along with a long date while paying her the same allowance as usual, she’ll probably stop replying next time, and you won’t be able to see her again. Even for the first date, the general guideline is two hours plus two hours. If you stay at a hotel for more than two hours, the woman will probably leave you a bad review. Accumulate enough bad reviews, and you’ll be forced to leave the club. Also, unlike in the adult entertainment industry, whether anything intimate happens depends on the chemistry between you and the woman. If she realizes that you’re using the dating club as a substitute for adult entertainment, your chances of being turned down will increase significantly. You may pay the setting fee and still not have an intimate relationship. You may treat her to dinner and still not have an intimate relationship. That’s the kind of possibility you have to accept with a dating club. Women can turn down a man for any reason. “I turned him down because he wasn’t my type.” That’s perfectly valid too. This is free恋愛—dating based on mutual choice—so if you’ve misunderstood that, I think you’d be better off going back to the adult entertainment industry. A dating club will probably cost you more than simply extending your time at an adult entertainment venue.

> I’m satisfied knowing that I can continue giving her money even if we don’t have sex—or even meet. It’s important to feel that way. Because you think like this, you can meet, have meals, and have sex while simply enjoying your time together without worrying about the clock. —Paper Airplane

I’m Aya, a female member. If your main goal is sex, you’re better off staying away. People can quickly tell when you’re treating them like there’s no point in paying unless you get the full experience, or when that kind of attitude is giving off your whole vibe. Women in these arrangements will just want to finish up quickly and leave, like a sex worker dealing with that kind of man. You’d be better off going to an escort service—it’s cheaper, and you can receive services for the full amount of time.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. You mean something like “exactly four hours for ¥○○,” right? If so, I wouldn’t use a dating club.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. No time limit? I feel bad for the woman you’re seeing… Are you sure you’re okay with that? She may end up disliking you pretty quickly. For me, sex is the most important part. To enjoy good sex, I make an effort not to be disliked and avoid doing anything she might find unpleasant as much as possible.

I don’t mind not having sex. I don’t even need to meet her, for that matter. Since we don’t meet, there’s no time commitment or anything. I’m satisfied knowing that I can keep giving a woman money without having sex with her or even meeting her. There’s a reason behind it, though. Recently, another woman has appeared who might surpass my favorite, and perhaps because of that, I’ve started thinking that simply giving my favorite money is enough. So I haven’t quite reached the level of being a “long-legged uncle”—giving her money purely out of kindness without ever meeting her. I still have a ways to go, but I’m gaining a little confidence that I might be able to play that role for my favorite.

Even though you’re paying, you still need to maintain a certain level of decency expected in a dating club—such as not treating your partner like an object or a slave. That’s what really matters. Judging by the fact that you’re asking a question like this, it seems unlikely that you’ll find a woman willing to play along with a pseudo-serious romance. Akari

I’m Kazu, a male member. I believe dates arranged through a dating club also come with limits on how long you’re expected to stay, and I make a point of respecting those limits. Our values are different, so I don’t think we’ll ever see eye to eye.