This is about the question of still receiving emails from the club after withdrawing.

I have an absolute ace I met through Universe Club, but for some reason I couldn’t settle down and kept seeing all kinds of women. But I’ve solved the problem. It was nothing complicated—I got back together with my “ex” ace from quite a while ago, and that finally put my mind at ease. That said, I still have nine other partners… lol. Now, to answer your question: I tell every woman, “You’re the only person I’m seeing.” Depending on the woman, I’ve even told her, “I quit the club.” In other words, imagine telling a man, “Please quit,” and having him say, “I did.” But men who aren’t going to quit simply don’t quit—just like me. m(__)m So there’s no point in telling them. All you can do is wait and hope they quit on their own. And you should try having two aces, too. It might help you feel more at ease.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. In my case, I’m an old man—and also one of the less affluent members of the dating club—so it’s not serious dating in the sense meant by the question. Rather, I’m genuinely committed to getting to know my partner within the framework of the dating club. That means I see only one partner at a time and don’t make any new offers while the relationship continues. I’m still a member, but it’s been nearly four years since I last made an offer. As for why I remain a member: there’s an age gap of more than 40 years between my partner and me, so I never know when she might end things. I really don’t want to go through the embarrassment of attending another interview, so I figure it’s better to keep paying the annual membership fee. That’s the main reason. In reality, once we started seeing each other, it didn’t feel like she was going to end things—in fact, it seems to be continuing indefinitely（笑）. I’ve decided, “Well, why not keep going as long as we both want?” Since my partner is still quite young, we’re still seeing each other. Dating clubs are set up to let members meet and choose someone who’s the best match, so in that sense, both men and women are in a wonderful environment. At the same time, I think that’s also what makes it difficult to avoid relationships becoming somewhat superficial. If you’re both young and single, I think it’s best to have an open and honest discussion about the terms of the arrangement and talk things through thoroughly.

I think you should be honest and tell him exactly how you feel. It doesn’t sound like you’re trying to make him direct all his affection and money toward you just because he has someone else. If you’ve decided that even the slightest lack of trust would be a reason to end things, then I think it’s okay to tell him that. The fact that the same thing happened at the club two years ago suggests that having a wealthy partner is one of your requirements for someone you can genuinely develop feelings for. You’ll probably need to be prepared for the consequences of that. Akari