I’m a 26-year-old woman who relies entirely on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I graduated from a fairly prestigious private university, so at least I have my educational background.
But I’m empty inside, incompetent, and a hopeless woman with no idea what to do.
I have a developmental disorder and don’t fit into society. I got a job at a major shipping company, but quit after just one month of training.
Since then, for the past four years, I’ve done nothing but papa-katsu, earning around ¥800,000–¥1.2 million a month.
However, I’ve been constantly depressed, and my anxiety feels overwhelming. I can’t get myself mentally prepared for papa-katsu, so I can only go out six to eight times a month.
I used all my funds to repay my student loans and my parents’ debts.
I thought I was being frugal, but even though I should be earning more through papa-katsu than I would at a regular job, I’ve only managed to save ¥2 million over these four years.
I’ve always been bad at managing money and can’t save as much as I’d like.
I’m worried about the future, but I have no motivation to do anything.
Lately, my heart has been racing badly, and I’ve been unable to sleep for days on end.
I have no friends and can’t fit into ordinary society.
Right now, I’m earning an average of around ¥900,000 a month from just a few outings, so I sometimes wonder whether my career change is basically prostitution. But I don’t have the drive, ability, or confidence to keep doing this into my 40s or 50s.
Since I’m still in my 20s, I’ve been having the naive thought that if I reactivate my account with Uniba, which I’m currently taking a break from, go to an interview at The Salon, and really give it my all, I might be able to save around ¥10 million over the next year.
However, as I mentioned, I’ve already paid off my debts, so I no longer have a savings goal.
I have no qualifications or talents, and I don’t know what I’m living for.
All I feel is increasing anxiety and despair.
I just want to disappear.
I’m already 26, so I’m not young anymore. How am I supposed to live from here on out?
Could those of you with more life experience please give me some advice?
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
You really did your best! You should be proud! I genuinely mean that. Since you’ve managed to pay off your debt, take that as a win and give yourself more credit.
Continuing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) must be tough, and it sounds like you struggled with doubts along the way. But you clearly have the skills and ability to achieve results! It’s definitely not something just anyone can do, lol. If you’re someone who can work hard when you have a clear path ahead, I think you’ll be just fine.
Of course, it’s good to pursue money, but don’t let it become your only focus. Try looking for something else to nurture or another path that benefits you beyond money.
Isn’t there someone you can discuss everything with—someone who can suggest a path forward? If you’ve been hiding that part of yourself in your relationships, maybe you could change the way you interact with people or look for someone you can be more open with.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
If there’s something you enjoy, I think it would be a good idea to start by looking for someone who shares the same hobby.
Even if you don’t have a savings goal, I think you can just keep saving. But if you really need a target, perhaps aim for around 100 million yen.
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① Walking
② Light jogging
③ Moderate-intensity running
④ ③ + light strength training
⑤ ③ + moderate-intensity strength training
⑥ ⑤ + a part-time job
⑦ ⑤ + a temp job
⑧ ⑤ + a full-time job
If it were me, I’d recommend progressing in this order.
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I’m Rin, a female member of SALON.
Please read SALON’s membership requirements. I believe they don’t accept people who are unemployed.
They may not be able to verify it, so you could lie, but personally, I don’t want someone who would tell a lie like that to join SALON. That’s just how I feel.
Why not try getting a job first? You’re probably very attractive, so once you’ve started working, I hope you’ll go to a SALON interview.
The staff there are all wonderful.
There’s nothing wrong with setting a savings goal for your future and retirement.
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I’m Nana Ayase☆
If you want to go to the salon interview, you should just give it a try. It’s a waste of time to keep worrying without taking action.
Money is especially important in life. Rather than starting with a full-time job, try easing back into society little by little through part-time work.
You’ll earn less than you would through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but money shouldn’t be the goal here. Take things one step at a time to improve your communication skills.
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