I thought one of the benefits of an exclusive dating club was being able to replace your partner, but I’ve learned that it’s not actually that easy.
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Between the fact that I’m not especially popular and the fact that I’m quite picky despite that, I don’t easily connect with someone I feel is a good fit.
I feel like I might meet 50 people, try things out with 10, and end up with just one or two…
Do you all have a higher success rate?
I’m Osaka, a male member.
You learned firsthand that replacing someone isn’t easy—that’s a good thing, lol. But if you’d do it anyway if it were easy, I feel like they’d eventually see right through you.
With dating clubs, there are certain procedures and etiquette for making offers, transportation expenses, allowances, and so on, but basically, that only applies up to the point of matching. After that, you’re free to do as you please. You can look at “free” optimistically and think anything goes, but there are some pretty awful situations too, so it really depends on the people involved, lol.
“It depends on the person”—that’s a profound point, isn’t it? lol. Ultimately, even if you try to calculate things based on probabilities or numbers, there are infinitely many possible combinations, so I don’t think it means much.
I often see people say that a higher allowance makes it easier to resolve all sorts of things. Of course, I think there’s some truth to that, but it’s only a tendency. Plenty of women get angry if you try to slap them in the face with a stack of bills. On the other hand, even someone who had decided to put up with something may change her mind when it’s actually presented that way. Isn’t that part of human dignity? lol
So, the word “replace” is risky, and I think it’s also risky when men make assumptions and get all self-congratulatory about them, lol.
What am I even talking about? lol
Anyway, some relationships may only work because the other person is choosing to keep them going. So basic to any relationship, regardless of gender, are manners, consideration, and gratitude that respect each other’s dignity. If you ignore those, I feel like you can suddenly find yourself caught off guard and brought down. (T_T)
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It depends on the type of woman I’m making an offer to.
In my case, I end up having an adult relationship (intimate) with about 30% of the women in Type B, and around 80% of those in Type C.
If I wanted to keep seeing every one of them, the number would probably be a little higher. But there are also a certain number of women I choose to say goodbye to, so I’m currently seeing only about five women.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
My papa said he had met around ten women before meeting me, so if we’re only looking at the dating club, I was one in ten.
However, there was a gap of about five years between his ex-girlfriend and me, so you could also say that no other woman came along for five years.
Another papa told me it had been ten years since he’d had anything resembling a girlfriend, so I’m starting to think that being able to make it to the hotel but not having things continue is pretty common among men in papa-katsu.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
In my column, I share the numbers from when I joined through my second year.
The main difference between me and the person asking the question is that I only make offers to Type C women, so my rate of entering into an adult relationship (intimate) is around 85%, which is higher than theirs.
It’s probably normal for only one or two women to ultimately remain as monthly arrangements.
I’ve been seeing my two monthly partners for over a year and a half now.
I’m more than satisfied.
I think one of the great things about this system is that when you part ways with a monthly partner, you can make lots of new offers and look for another good match.
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That’s a good question. I understand exactly what you mean.
I’ve seen data suggesting that, when both men and women search for the best possible partner, only about five or six people ultimately remain as viable options. Since your standards are high and you don’t consider yourself particularly popular, I suppose that’s about what you’d expect.
In my case, I’m an old man, and I’ve had all kinds of experiences from the very beginning—having offers rejected outright, being cut off immediately after the first meeting, and even suspecting women of misrepresenting their relationship preferences. As a result, I completely changed my approach to finding a partner. I’ve continued up to this day with the belief that “the only truly suitable partners are women who have agreed to date me.”
In the end, I make offers to seven or eight women before I actually start seeing someone, so I suppose that’s about normal.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
No, it’s actually much lower. I currently have zero women I’m seeing through an arrangement, and some of the new offers I sent have been left unread or ignored.
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That may be how it is.
I met them through Universe, and the two I’m likely to stay with long-term are my ace and former ace.
Those two are so exceptional that the allowances among my 11 monthly arrangements are becoming increasingly polarized.
The ones who come closest to them are my semi-ace and the Type A girl, but I don’t think they’ll quite reach the level of my top two...
If anything, I may end up keeping just one or two of the monthly arrangements with lower allowances—around 100,000 yen per meeting.
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