I think most girls would feel embarrassed and uncomfortable being seen out on a date with an older man, but don’t the men feel awkward too?
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Is taking a young girl out something they’re proud of?? Don’t they realize people are probably looking at them thinking, “He must be paying her—that’s papa-katsu...”?
When I’m out walking around, I see so many pairs whose appearances and ages are such a mismatch that I immediately think, “That’s papa-katsu...”
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Yokoyama from the staff here—I’ll answer as well!
Since I started this job, whenever I see a couple with a noticeable age gap walking together, I find myself wondering if it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Before that, though, I never thought anything of it when I saw people like that around town, and I don’t think others pay as much attention to strangers as you might think! (Of course, if you were walking through a place packed with young people, you might attract some attention.)
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
Most of the papas in this club probably don’t want to be seen too much or attract attention.
“That guy over there—where’s he from? An app?” (lol)
When I’m out walking, I don’t often think, “That must be papa-katsu.”
Maybe once every two or three months, while I’m doing papa-katsu, I’ll be sitting in a hotel lobby or restaurant and suddenly wonder, “Could that be it?”
But I think I only notice because I don’t want people to see me doing papa-katsu, so I’m consciously keeping an eye on my surroundings.
When I’m not doing papa-katsu, I’m not paying attention to the people around me, so I don’t really notice them.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
One of my papas (male supporters) clearly looks like a yakuza, so I figure people might assume I’m a hostess entertaining a customer from the nightlife industry.
Since I’m around thirty myself, I just hope I at least look like a hostess.
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I agree. It’s embarrassing.
Just walking together is embarrassing enough, so living together would be even more embarrassing.
If possible, could you give my roommate, Shi-chan, a good telling-off? I don’t mean “inside” in that way!
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I’m Rin, a female member of SALON.
Before I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), whenever I saw a couple with a significant age gap walking arm in arm, I automatically assumed the younger person worked in the nightlife industry.
So people involved in the same kind of arrangement might think, “Oh, is that papa-katsu?” But those who don’t know about it probably just assume it’s work.
Those who care about being seen probably wouldn’t walk around outside arm in arm, while those who don’t care simply don’t worry about it. I don’t think other people pay that much attention anyway!
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That’s only because you do papa-katsu.
People who have no experience with that world wouldn’t even think about something like that…
I mean, papa-katsu wouldn’t even cross their minds…
—Paper Airplane
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I don’t want to be seen by people either. You never know where acquaintances or friends might be, so I’m extremely cautious and rarely go out in public. With everyone wearing masks these days, it’s hard to tell who someone is, but close friends would still recognize me, so I’m careful.
Also, the women I date feel the same way I do, so we act with a mutual understanding. They have their futures ahead of them, so I ask them to think things through and be cautious in our relationships.
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I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer this too.
At Universe, women around 30 tend to be popular. Basically, I think it’s because women around that age have more life experience, understand the hardships of the world, are considerate toward their partners, and are less tiring to be around.
There also seems to be the advantage that you don’t get strange looks when walking together.
With students around 20, then, some people may feel fine themselves but still worry about how they look to others.
> When I’m out walking, I see pairs who look so mismatched in appearance and age that I often think, “That’s papa-katsu…”
You probably only think that because you’re involved in papa-katsu. Most ordinary people would be more likely to assume they’re just a couple with an age gap or simply acquaintances.
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I don’t walk around town with women in the first place.
The restaurants have private rooms, and when we go to a hotel, we take separate taxis from the dinner venue and arrive at different times.
If we meet somewhere outdoors, we meet up and then walk separately to the restaurant.
When I give a girl a ride in my own car, she sits in the back seat.
These are just basic manners for a papa (a male supporter).
The only exception is my former top girl. She links arms with me tightly wherever we go—I can’t get away. She’s incredibly beautiful, so if anything, I’m the one who feels embarrassed and apologetic.
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