I can’t help wondering how utterly incapable of doing his job a man must be if he makes the woman find the restaurants.
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He always asks me what I want to eat next, and when I say I want sushi, he tells me, “Then please find a restaurant.”
Since he doesn’t have much of a budget, it’s difficult to find somewhere suitable, and I’m the one who makes the reservations too.
Even when we go to a hotel, he’s terrible at making arrangements and completely lacking in thoughtfulness. It honestly grosses me out.
Apparently golf is his hobby, but he says that after eight years of playing, his best score is 125. That totally makes sense, lol. I’ve always thought, “I can’t even picture this old guy playing golf. He must be terrible, lol.”
He’s so inefficient that I get the feeling he must be useless at work too.
When I wondered how he could afford papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it turned out he seemed to be a clueless guy from a wealthy family. He gives me a generous allowance, but says he has the restaurant expenses put through as business expenses, so it would be bad if his father found out...
That’s the excuse he gives me.
So, basically, are there a lot of men here who have money despite being incompetent and not very bright?
Since joining this site, I’ve often felt that a person’s income doesn’t necessarily correspond to their abilities, whether they’re a business owner or a salaried employee. I wonder if income can vary that much depending on the industry or type of job, even when people have the same level of ability...
Also, I want to tell him, “Every once in a while, find and reserve a restaurant yourself,” but is there any way to say it without hurting his feelings?
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This is Ayase Nana☆
You should be grateful that your papa at least asks what you want to eat. Some people take teenagers who can’t drink alcohol to izakayas every time.
You’re being cute, so why not be the adult here and forgive him? If you can’t accept it, then you can always break up.
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If you have even a little interest in food, looking for restaurants is fun…
If you don’t have the palate to choose a restaurant yourself, going out to eat with you honestly isn’t that enjoyable for me either. I’d have to keep going along with you saying everything tastes good…
I don’t really want to date someone with no sense of taste…
—Paper Airplane
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Being able to delegate work to others is a sign of competence.
That said, even people who aren’t especially smart or capable can still make money. That’s just how the world works.
Knowing how to push back effectively when someone assigns you work is also an important professional skill. Keep experimenting and honing yourself.
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You’re probably just lazy.
Even though it feels like a hassle, you still want to meet girls, right?
If the allowance and other perks make up for your hassle, keep seeing her. If not, move on.
Marika
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You’re probably just a bit of a lazy person.
You want to meet girls even though you find it a hassle. If the allowance, the other forms of hospitality, and the effort of dealing with your laziness are worth it, continue the arrangement. If not, part ways.
Marika
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I totally understand how you feel.
In a word, it’s just uncool. Nothing about it is smooth.
He wants to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and be intimate with younger women, yet he still hasn’t moved on from being someone’s papa (a male supporter). Not exactly a good look.
He says you should just enjoy golf, but after playing for eight years and still scoring 125… well, yeah… maybe take some lessons.
I understand why you’re angry, but please watch your language…
Akari
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It’s not just about arranging the venue—I get the impression that a lot of papas also don’t know how to spend money or hand over the allowance properly. This is based solely on what women I’ve approached have told me.
A papa who can’t arrange a venue or offer a decent allowance could never succeed in business. Have you ever seen or heard of a stingy man who’s truly “capable”? No, right?
Your papa isn’t worth trying to educate, so you’d be better off looking for the next one. He’ll drain your luck.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> Is there a way to tell them without hurting their feelings?
Since they’re asking you to find restaurants, it sounds like you’ve been seeing each other for a reasonable amount of time.
In that case, you could say, “How about we take turns choosing the restaurant from now on?” That way, you’d only have to find one every other time.
If you suddenly leave it entirely up to them and end up at a place you don’t want to go to, you may just build up even more frustration. Taking turns seems like a good balance.
If you’re fine with the restaurants they choose, you could also simply let them handle it every time.
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If you’re getting an allowance, at least you can eat whatever you like. Just think of it as being a fool’s secretary.
If the allowance is low, though, he’s just a loser of a son.
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For example, I’d be terrified to tell Princess Nana, “Find a restaurant for us.” I envy the mindset of your papa (a male supporter). At the same time, I completely understand why you’re upset. But please try to be a little more forgiving.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Men can participate as long as they have the money.
Even if you’re good at your job and smart, if you didn’t have money, you’d say something even harsher, wouldn’t you?
And it’s laughable to talk about someone’s abilities when you’ve only seen one side of the person you’re dating.
Why not try saying something like, “I’d love to visit one of your regular spots sometime”?
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